Up until a few years ago, I was firmly in the 'man the f**k up' camp - until 2 people close to me came down with it.
........... I found a mate in his car with a hosepipe from the exhaust to the window. There were no outward signs or warnings. He was up to his arsehole in debt - he's kind of ok now, still has some debt but, he's in a better place.
Mum became withdrawn because of her health issues - all of her kids make more effort to visit now and, she seems better for it - we were all there pretty regular but, now we make a proper pain in the arse of ourselves.