Autistic kids

[Blackmag 5,869]

Does ocd play a big part in your kids  life Tom can does get bad from it like as a example if he walks in a certain door he has to leave the same way  and he's also very competitive hates losing at anything he was playing that fortnight but we stopped it after a few meltdowns 

[WILF 44,282]

All the above mate 

[KimE 487]

10 hours ago, sid g said:

excuse my ignorance  lads but is this a life long thing or can/does/will it change 

Its lifelong but adults develope strategies to function better in groups. Many get tired of beeing exposed to a lot of noice/impressions in large groups so they may have to avoid it or take a nap after. A former workmate works at a sawmill with monotone tasks which fits him as he needs the same structure every day, then something unexpected happens he get very upspeeded. Many finds work in their area of a specialised interest.

[NEWKID 26,177]

My niece is certainly on the spectrum, she is 22 and amazing, one of the nicest kids you'd ever meet, overly concerned about others...she's at Exeter Uni now studying Archaeology, like a computer with dates/ history and music...

Struggles in exam situations, and needs additional time to complete the task, partly because of her OCD when presenting...

Amazing kid though, me and my brother were living together when she was born, he was only 18 and his girlfriend (now wife) moved in with me and him and we had a baby in the house, I used to take my mates in to see her after the pub, much to the delight of his Mrs, she was the star attraction...lol... we are real close she was the first kid in the family so obviously I've a real soft spot for her..

Edited December 4, 2020 by NEWKID

[king 11,664]

2 hours ago, Blackmag said:

Food is another thing with him I have noticed he will only eat certain foods and he will smell it before eating and if he does try something new if he doesn't like the look of it he won't entertain it even without trying it first and will only drink out of one certain cup 

The middle lad was never diagnosed with autism.but he is aswell the wife and I am pretty sure.he seemed the odd 1 out because the other 2 were autistic.sounds odd I know.

He's the same with food mate.no vinegar no salt and no red or brown sauce ever.very fussy eater.his favourite food is nuttela and bacon sandwiches.say the wife makes him food.chicken breast mash potato and peas.not 1 of them peas can touch anything else on the plate.or that's it he won't eat anything.but will eat them individually.if a baked bean touches a potato waffle the same thing won't eat none of it.aslong as they don't touch each other on the plate he will eat the lot lol.

[riohog 5,621]

you lot must have the pateince of jobe , im not so sure i have the patience to deal with such stuff  i tend to be mostly black and white  , with a few shades of grey .i dont think i was a doting farther  i tended to say it how it was , having said that my doughter  now married with a 7 year old boy shes done ok   butt i can see me in her  .she is smart  but not one to be fkd about ..

[WILF 44,282]

27 minutes ago, riohog said:

you lot must have the pateince of jobe 

Not at all mate, what you gonna do, send them back ? Lol 

This is imho the hardest thing to get your head round, i was a very “black & white just get on with it” type bloke myself and with the kids until my youngest.

And the thing I had to teach myself is that they can’t “just get on with it” anymore than I can teach myself to fly......they are hard wired that way.

In many ways they are having to exist in a world where everyone and everything is weird to them.......like being the only sane bloke in the asylum.

That is the battle they face every day when they wake up.

 

[riohog 5,621]

2 minutes ago, WILF said:

Not at all mate, what you gonna do, send them back ? Lol 

This is imho the hardest thing to get your head round, i was a very “black & white just get on with it” type bloke myself and with the kids until my youngest.

And the thing I had to teach myself is that they can’t “just get on with it” anymore than I can teach myself to fly......they are hard wired that way.

In many ways they are having to exist in a world where everyone and everything is weird to them.......like being the only sane bloke in the asylum.

That is the battle they face every day when they wake up.

 

its all a complicated affair to me  pal becouse i dont have to deal with it 

[WILF 44,282]

Just now, riohog said:

its all a complicated affair to me  pal becouse i dont have to deal with it 

Mate, you would be no different to any other dad in the world, you’d deal with whatever you had to deal with because that is just what you do

[downsouth 6,831]

12 hours ago, WILF said:

@king & @Blackmag How are your lads for swimming ?

My little boy absolutely loves swimming, I think the sensory thing of being in the water is something that really benefits him

Ive taken my girl swimming at least twice a week since the age she was out of nappies but no ammount of coaxing would get her to take he armbands off.Then one day when she was 5 I forgot them and didnt realise untill we were changed.2hrs later she was swimming 25metres unaided.Funny thing is she is absolutely useless at any other sport.Cant hit a ball with a bat,will try to kick a ball and miss it or trp over it,Half the time if she runs she will end up flat on her face.Weve got a feeling that she might also have dyspraxia as this very often goes hand in hand with autism.Shes 9 and cant ride a bike,tie her shoe laces and holds a pen like a monkey even though weve tried specially designed pens,pen grippers allsorts.Funny thing is whenever we have parents evenings at her school and the pen thing gets mentioned her teachers always say"but how can we tell her she's doing it wrong when she has the most beautiful handwriting in her class and advanced from a pencil to a pen a full year ahead of whats normally expected.Also she started guitar lassons in january and even with all the lockdowns and her guitar teacher having to Isolate numerous times shes flying at it and never has to re go over any lesson.Her teacher has been shocked how she doesnt forget how to read music that shes learned even after many weeks without a lesson when kids that have been doing lessons a couple of years are still struggling to read it.

[jukel123 6,570]

We are all on 'the spectrum'.  Some more than others thats all.

[downsouth 6,831]

2 hours ago, NEWKID said:

My niece is certainly on the spectrum, she is 22 and amazing, one of the nicest kids you'd ever meet, overly concerned about others...she's at Exeter Uni now studying Archaeology, like a computer with dates/ history and music...

Struggles in exam situations, and needs additional time to complete the task, partly because of her OCD when presenting...

Amazing kid though, me and my brother were living together when she was born, he was only 18 and his girlfriend (now wife) moved in with me and him and we had a baby in the house, I used to take my mates in to see her after the pub, much to the delight of his Mrs, she was the star attraction...lol... we are real close she was the first kid in the family so obviously I've a real soft spot for her..

Thats funny you say about your neice being overly concerned for others.My girl always gets a shining school report but one of the things that made me so proud was a techers comment that said"Any is such a polite and caring little girl who always shows the most beautiful empathy to her teachers and all of her peers.

[keepdiggin 9,216]

My nephew is autistic and found this whole corona virus very scary bless him. 

 

My 4year old son looks like he has adhd can be an absolute nightmare at times

[EDDIE B 3,120]

My boy has no speech, but it doesn't seem to phase him

 

 

[Greyman 25,237]

54 minutes ago, EDDIE B said:

My boy has no speech, but it doesn't seem to phase him

 

 

Don’t think you should keep him in a run though mate