Thanks for all the messages lads..much apprechiated..sister was 56, took into hospital last week as she was very tired and just couldnt get out of bed..did a lumba pucture and found she has contracted staphlacocal menengitus, she had 2 cardiac arrests at this point, and septicemia had set in and damaged 2 heart valves and the heart wall, they did a ct scan and found there were 5 embolisms on her brain, she never came out the coma, and was too weak to operate on her heart, so they told us if there was another cardiac arrest they would no be fetching her out of it..she has 5 kids..and a few gran