The Last Bullfight

[Accip74 7,112]

.....So last night I had a very late Email from a dear friend of mine. Did I want to go to the last Bullfight of the season in Madrid on the 12th October? Of course the answer was yes...

 

We had planned to do the Bull run at Pamplona. I don't want to go into detail, but suffice to say he is not going to make next years Bull run, so Madrid was the next best thing & more importantly very soon....

 

Between us we have got everything booked up since last night & now I'm quite excited about the whole thing. However, as usual, Im left thinking about my mates strength of character & dignity, plus his humour in his final months.............& how the f**k would I cope in the same situation? I really don't know, not as well I fear.......& what would I want to do?

 

The Bullring seems like a great place to start to come to terms with such things, so what would you do? What would be so important to do?

 

[Welsh_red 5,045]

For me I'd like a night of drinking and smoking in a pub beer garden in the sun with friends and family . Lots of piss taking and old stories etc .

[Welsh_red 5,045]

Someone local to me was diagnosed with cancer , he was 65ish. He just carried on as he'd always did . Driving buses , playing pool league and shouting abuse at footballers on TV . He had absolutely no intention of doing anything other than what he'd always done . It takes all sorts.

[ginger beard 4,653]

sorry about that accip.

are we discussing how we'd like to spend our final months.?

i'd split my time between watching my son play football and lamping with him and doing all i can to see him enjoying himself.

but when he's with his mother it has to be drink,drugs,party's and escorts.might even try heroin.

pretty much the same as it is now.

[Accip74 7,112]

sorry about that accip.

are we discussing how we'd like to spend our final months.?

i'd split my time between watching my son play football and lamping with him and doing all i can to see him enjoying himself.

but when he's with his mother it has to be drink,drugs,party's and escorts.might even try heroin.

pretty much the same as it is now.

I'm not really sure tbh mate. I think I mean what would be really be important? Other than family of course.........I've had quite a long time to think about this & Im still not sure.....

When you are faced with a relatively young & still strong able bodied bloke, it's fcuking hard to take in really.....

[Qbgrey 4,369]

Sorry to hear that mate,i,d go and have a crack as normal.be a good time spent.

[Dinosaurs 2,148]

Personally ive always been opposed to bull fighting but i take your point & if a good friend of mine was diagnosed with life ending disease & really wanted to do something i'd probably put my personal views to one side. As already said i would want to spend as much time with family as possible & working the dogs. Hope you both have a good time & all the best to your mate. Atb

[just-A-snap 1,269]

Be yourself and just be the friend that you are. Most will ask those they trust if they want anything. But just be the friend. That is what I would do or ask, one would hope. Always easy to say than do.

All the very best Accip74

[waltjnr 8,180]

It's almost film nior, enjoy,and later on enjoy the memories!

[pesky1972 5,661]

I'd try and do as much of the stuff that has given me the most pleasure in life in the time I had left.

Trips away with just her the kids and me, and nice meals with the whole family. Sunday afternoons in the pub with my pals.., and maybe one more mad weekend abroad somewhere. Hunting, fishing and generally getting close to nature has always been where I have been most content, so more of the same.

I don't envy your task Accip, but maybe try and look at it as a positive. At least you're getting a chance to do this stuff with him. Have a good one pal.

[walshie 2,804]

Jeez Accip that's so sad. I'm sure you will be a good mate and make the trip special.

[byron 1,278]

just go with the flow accip,,my wife and best friend is terminaly ill with cancer,and the last eight months have been horrendous.one of the saddest things was having to cut her hair off. not a bull fight mate but on her bucket list,a ride in a hoss n cart on fxckin skeggy front.lol....don't fuss around your mate,yours and his feelings/emotions will be all over the place..good on you mate.just do whats right..

good luck..

[mackem 29,859]

just go with the flow accip,,my wife and best friend is terminaly ill with cancer,and the last eight months have been horrendous.one of the saddest things was having to cut her hair off. not a bull fight mate but on her bucket list,a ride in a hoss n cart on fxckin skeggy front.lol....don't fuss around your mate,yours and his feelings/emotions will be all over the place..good on you mate.just do whats right..

good luck..

Sorry to hear that mate,truly I am,i have walked in those shoes.

[jukel123 9,611]

Jesus, very moving thread. We blokes have feelings too-big time. It's a tough old life.

[greg64 3,060]

thats sad accip i hope you and your mate have a memorable time for all the right reasons. true friends don't come often in a lifetime