a lot of truth in your sentiments.
I wish you the best with your lad, there has been lots of good advice given,
i think more important than talking is Listening, he needs to learn respect, but you need to learn about him, try and listen and then try and find common ground and steer him into something you dont mind him doing rather than something you definetley dont want him doing
I reckon if he is bailed by the police, (he must have a short bail date) they are refering his case to the local Youth Offending Team.......then depending on him(previous cautions etc../remorse) , the