Born Hunter 17,960 Posted April 23, 2014 Report Share Posted April 23, 2014 (edited) Has the great British institution of women aspiring to be a Lady and men aspiring to be a Gentleman died out? Some magazine has published what the modern day Gentleman is and it provoked my thoughts... 50-100 years ago I'm led to believe that to be described and gentlemanly or a ladylike was the ultimate compliment. These days it almost seems like we have lost that. So, what is it to be a Lady or a Gentleman in today's Britain and is it worth pursuing anymore or just an outdated concept? Edited April 23, 2014 by Born Hunter Quote Link to post Share on other sites
South hams hunter 8,996 Posted April 23, 2014 Report Share Posted April 23, 2014 Would describe myself as a gent but I try and use some form of 'chivalry'. Mind my swearing, hold door, carry things etc for the fairer sex Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Kay 3,709 Posted April 23, 2014 Report Share Posted April 23, 2014 I think its simply behaving in an appropriate manner for whatever situation you're in basically ... just knowing how to conduct yourself really IMO it has nothing to do with wealth or status ... you can still dress & behave in a ladylike way , I guess its all about how you like to be seen by others 5 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
johnny boy68 11,726 Posted April 23, 2014 Report Share Posted April 23, 2014 Outdated load of crap, if you're a nice person you're a nice person imo. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
clipo 871 Posted April 23, 2014 Report Share Posted April 23, 2014 Outdated load of crap, if you're a nice person you're a nice person imo. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
forest of dean redneck 12,023 Posted April 23, 2014 Report Share Posted April 23, 2014 Holding door open for ladies,taking my weight on my elbows,the usual gallant stuff. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Born Hunter 17,960 Posted April 23, 2014 Author Report Share Posted April 23, 2014 I think to be the perfect Gentleman or Lady is a difficult thing, especially today when not everybody appreciates the traditional behaviour and etiquette attached. It's certainly not a function of wealth or social position though I do perhaps believe people of a higher social background view it with greater importance and that is perhaps why people that associate themselves with the working class more have come to frown on it and resent it. It's surely all about social behaviour and etiquette, never unintentionally making someone feel uncomfortable by treating them as lower than yourself or unwelcome unless provoked. If women appreciate it, treating them like a lady, holding doors, paying for meals, acting like a man but not at the expense of allowing her to have equal say and choice. I'm far from a true gentleman, but I certainly aspire to be. Far too many vices to take that title.... What is it to be a Gentleman today? I read recently: "A true gentleman holds the door for his lady........ and slaps her arse as she walks through it". LOL something like that. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
pip1968 2,490 Posted April 23, 2014 Report Share Posted April 23, 2014 is this being gentleman like ?,,,,,get in that kitchen right now and get my feckin tea on Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Born Hunter 17,960 Posted April 23, 2014 Author Report Share Posted April 23, 2014 (edited) is this being gentleman like ?,,,,,get in that kitchen right now and get my feckin tea on I believe that would depend on whether or not that that is how your lady likes to be spoken to? Acting gentlemanly isn't all sophistication, manners and etiquette, it's making those around you feel comfortable with their percieived social anxieties or faux pas and if necessary taking the embarassment for them.... Well, so I understand anyway. Edited April 23, 2014 by Born Hunter Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Astanley 11,672 Posted April 23, 2014 Report Share Posted April 23, 2014 David Niven and I , the last of the true gentlemen , It may be an outdated concept to some , but one must strive to maintain certain standards or else its anarchy . 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
NEWKID 29,093 Posted April 23, 2014 Report Share Posted April 23, 2014 is this being gentleman like ?,,,,,get in that kitchen right now and get my feckin tea on No problem as long as you're holding the door open for her 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
pip1968 2,490 Posted April 23, 2014 Report Share Posted April 23, 2014 is this being gentleman like ?,,,,,get in that kitchen right now and get my feckin tea on No problem as long as you're holding the door open for her and not forget to say thanks afterwards Quote Link to post Share on other sites
johnny boy68 11,726 Posted April 23, 2014 Report Share Posted April 23, 2014 is this being gentleman like ?,,,,,get in that kitchen right now and get my feckin tea on No problem as long as you're holding the door open for her Quote Link to post Share on other sites
BIG G wheton machine 1,594 Posted April 23, 2014 Report Share Posted April 23, 2014 It's all down to good manners, and how you were brought up. If you were fed with a catapult and got no tuition from your parents like today's society, all kids nowa days just expect to get what they want and have no concept of hard work or giving instead of receiving. It's a total fault with today's society, there's nothing worse than going out for a meal and some kunts kids running mental, swearing and general bad manners when both parents sit there ignoring the fact that it's going on. Boils my blood. It's all this Jeremy Kyle facebastardingbook anti teach your kids manners and discipline health n safety at work act Shiite. That runs rife in today's world, 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
scothunter 12,609 Posted April 23, 2014 Report Share Posted April 23, 2014 It's wasted on today's society. Always polite and curteous to older folk. But I wouldn't go out my way for the rest, maj are pig ignorant foul mouthed and like I said manners would be wasted on them. Don't even lift thier head up from phone to akowledge you 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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