Home schooling

[tatsblisters 11,471]

15 minutes ago, Franks dad said:

They are similar but autistic people have a more complicated brain structure if that’s the right word , adhd can be mediated, autism cant …. Autism is more complicated in the way your brain works , we literally think talk and see things differently…bizarre as it sounds …. you get tested to see if it’s adhd in your autistic assessment along with testing for global delay and learning difficulties as they could all be contributing to an individual’s condition…. 

Then their is a higher risk of developing epilepsy amongst those under the autism spectrum like my 25 year old grandson has got. His early school days were quite good until he went to the Catholic secondary school were his life was made a misery and his parents would have homed schooled him but like most folk time and other kids did not make it viable. To say he has autism and epilepsy that he has to take medication for he holds down a regular job has never brought trouble to the door and has recently bought his own house obviously with help from his parents. 

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19 minutes ago, tatsblisters said:

Then their is a higher risk of developing epilepsy amongst those under the autism spectrum like my 25 year old grandson has got. His early school days were quite good until he went to the Catholic secondary school were his life was made a misery and his parents would have homed schooled him but like most folk time and other kids did not make it viable. To say he has autism and epilepsy that he has to take medication for he holds down a regular job has never brought trouble to the door and has recently bought his own house obviously with help from his parents. 

Now that takes courage, and determination…. Hat off to the man …. Tell him that from me that’s inspiring

[WILF 53,157]

1 hour ago, Bendigo said:

Thanks lads 

@WILF I value your words and posts on this 

@Blackmag  cheers pal. T is a great lad and we need to get em out fishing once the weather warms up

@mC HULL I really do get the point you are trying to make. My thoughts on this have come about due to numerous things not just having a few punch ups. The more I learn about other options than regular schooling the more I see better outcomes at every level for my lad. The thing that  makes my choices easier is that my boy is already well socialised and taking him out of the current school won't in any way isolate him from others. He's super social and confident.....his current situation is sucking that out of him. 

We are looking at a different school after the Easter holidays....but fck...the more you look at the realities of home schooling the more it opens your eyes. 

Been talking to a bloke who teaches first aid and his nephew was home schooled so he took him to work doing first aid courses one day a week and he's offered to take my lad now. The local army cadets is in the TA barracks which is a medical detachment....they said if he was knocking off first aid qualifications and getting a day a week in with my mate (who they know) then the would make use of my lad down there. Now although these two conversations aren't set in stone.... and were just half hearted if buts and maybes...it certainly gets your mind wandering about possibilities. The out come of 5 years at this secondary school is at most a handful of 2nd rate GCSEs.....3 years of first aid training and a language night school alone would be more useful that! That's before I've arranged a month in a mates engineering firm or another mates joinery workshop. I can arrange private maths and English. Fck me he could go out trapping moles do a project on starting a business....I'm sure my accountant would help him. 

Chances are him will start another school where he already has some good mates....but for now I'm getting sucked down a home schooling research rabbit hole. Fck I could send him to south Africa on a professional hunters course!

If I can help in any way with advice, well maybe not advice but just with my experience, don’t hesitate to message me mate and ask. 

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I know schools can be dreadful places stupid Nasty kids teachers that are not up to their jobs supply teachers walking out after a day can go on about our old school our primary school was good nice head teacher strict and friendly place every year 6 sobbing at the last day in primary secondary school just left soon as we  could do not look back 

[Blackmag 6,898]

49 minutes ago, WILF said:

If I can help in any way with advice, well maybe not advice but just with my experience, don’t hesitate to message me mate and ask. 

That is a great offer wilf bendigo as met my lad a couple of times now first time he hardly said a word to him second time totally opened up to him and showed his personality we liked his company and  will have more of  it shortly but bendigo is a clever lad that thinks things through he's a clever sort and a total gent to boot but we both know what it's like when we choose home schooling the uncertainty that comes with it 

[Bendigo 2,388]

56 minutes ago, WILF said:

If I can help in any way with advice, well maybe not advice but just with my experience, don’t hesitate to message me mate and ask. 

Out of likes....I never doubted you would be there with help and advice. There's definitely some good dads on thl

 

[mC HULL 18,485]

18 hours ago, Daniel cain said:

When we was younger...the bullies had to physically grab hold of you to hurt / punch f**k out of you...we all know that ..NOW it's 24 hrs a day ,none stop on social media etc.youngsters can't get away from it....dont matter what f***ing school you move them too,it's constant,there's even  grown Men on this forum,that are no better...that's the way the worlds gone ...don't matter what your family name is,how hard you think you are...will always be some horrible little scummy cnut who will think they can just do what the f**k they like.....if they had had the fear of God put into them at a young age,Had a real man about the place...then things could be different ...manners cost f**k all,and respect is earned..

Its on you the  parent to educate the kids mate do it from 2 rag em rip make it so there quicker with the mouth then you and if theres a few siblings they  soon learn to take chunks out of each other

when they come home so so done this school.ring you they been hit get them home and tell them school rings again you wont be spoken to until they ring and its because you've hurt them when schools rings and says that they have  praise them take em out make a fuss of them learn them.early because its actual cruel.world

 

[WILF 53,157]

15 minutes ago, mC HULL said:

Its on you the  parent to educate the kids mate do it from 2 rag em rip make it so there quicker with the mouth then you and if theres a few siblings they  soon learn to take chunks out of each other

when they come home so so done this school.ring you they been hit get them home and tell them school rings again you wont be spoken to until they ring and its because you've hurt them when schools rings and says that they have  praise them take em out make a fuss of them learn them.early because its actual cruel.world

 

…….or you could just do everything in your power to put them in a better situation so they don’t have to deal with gonks ?

[mel b 4,903]

18 minutes ago, mC HULL said:

Its on you the  parent to educate the kids mate do it from 2 rag em rip make it so there quicker with the mouth then you and if theres a few siblings they  soon learn to take chunks out of each other

when they come home so so done this school.ring you they been hit get them home and tell them school rings again you wont be spoken to until they ring and its because you've hurt them when schools rings and says that they have  praise them take em out make a fuss of them learn them.early because its actual cruel.world

 

f**k me mc.

You should write a book entitled,  " how to turn your children into violent offenders,  and get them put into prison at the first available opportunity ".

Teaching them how to fight and to stand there ground is one thing , but you can't encourage them to be violent. 

[mC HULL 18,485]

On 28/03/2026 at 20:57, chartpolski said:

I don’t think I have the academic ability or patience to home school, but I do try to give my grandson the more worldly outlook that he may not get at school, even though he attends an international school.

Cheers.

Them a what I use the long walks with the dogs for mate talks you find out whats going on with them and its a good time to explain things at daughter hated school teachers hated her suspended once for telling  the lesbian headteacher how can you say Islam is good when you'd get thrown of a roof 

But she was academic enough they couldn't do out shes about to.compete her second year at college near Beverley  she took a course were its 3 a levels in 2 years but no second chances not many passed her 2 mates didn't  and they had a much better education millionaires she passed with grades now she can apply to any uni in the country 

Do her mates quit or do the go.again from scratch ? How they were  brought up may  decide 

She had plenty of arguments etc trys at bullying few rough spots but shes thick skinned polite to everyone  but nasty in an instant and theres nothing to her shes alot like me old lady who put fellas to Shame especially little mincers crying on podcasts over ptsd 

 

[mC HULL 18,485]

6 minutes ago, mel b said:

f**k me mc.

You should write a book entitled,  " how to turn your children into violent offenders,  and get them put into prison at the first available opportunity ".

Teaching them how to fight and to stand there ground is one thing , but you can't encourage them to be violent. 

You teach them treat everyone with respect mate be polite but anyone bully's you or ya siblings hurt em 

[mC HULL 18,485]

You have to remember mouth a snarl and quick with it 90 percent of the time is more than enough especially for bully's 

[mC HULL 18,485]

45 minutes ago, WILF said:

…….or you could just do everything in your power to put them in a better situation so they don’t have to deal with gonks ?

Gonks ? Your like stiff you mate with his people like you 

You've git some delusion of grandeur you want educating on how the autistic child causes as much aggro as they take off the gonks ?

[mC HULL 18,485]

21 hours ago, WILF said:

Exactly that mate, there is no “rule” or one size fits all, I think home school parents (or ones considering it) can get too hung up with that education system mindset of having I reach goals and tick boxes…..it don’t work like that, or at least it don’t have to if you don’t want to.

It’s so much more flexible than that, you don’t have to sit a kid at the kitchen table every day bored out their f***ing tree because that may not suit their personality……maybe they learn better out making things in the shed while listening to a pod cast about history or science or world events ?

Maybe they thrive in the woods ? Or om a market stall ?

Maybe they like going beating and interacting with adults,  maybe they come to work with you now and again ? 
Maybe you sit outside the supermarket and send them into get the weeks shopping with a list ?

Every single thing you do is a learning experience or can be used as one.

For some kids the stability and routine of a school environment is exactly what they need…..one size don’t fit all, that’s the same for everyone not just kids with additional needs.

Its worth looking at how Scandinavians do education, they don’t apply the same pressures we do…..they do it totally different. 
 

So sometimes its ok to.send them to the animals and to lay with the dogs ? 

[Bendigo 2,388]

Mchull.... I think your great and have so much to offer, the forum would be a poorer place without you....I agree with a big chunk of everything you say .....but fck me you need to learn when to turn it in