Mental health

[gunter 1,512]

See anyone that deals with anyone or is  close to someone  that has mental health  there made of strong stuff it's horrible watching someone you know or love go through it wanting to kill themselfs crying no reasoning with them  not looking after themselfs it's an effort to get them out of bed to even watch TV or take intrest in anything to do with daily life it's not a nice place to be in or a nice thing to have and I agree once it's in someone's head  and there serious you can rap them in bubble wrap and watch them 24 hours  a day everyday for a year once they get a minute that'll be it adios amigos 

[WataWalloper 3,414]

Watched a young lad get cut down an dragged out a cell in yo’s, dead, wasn’t a very nice sight, but I’m ashamed to say I scoffed at mental illness most me life until I saw the effect it had on a couple folk I class as close, the change was saddest thing I ever saw, known them both most my life an like I said they just changed, no acting, no self pity, no actual big reason either an that was the bit that fried my brain, I’ll never scoff at it again, I do think a good few folk play on it tho, but it’s deffo real an by looks of it hits with no rhyme or reason, appreciate what you got cos you never know 

[saluki bouy 809]

Every male funeral under the age of 55 I’ve been to has been drug OD or suicide except one. Scottish Borders quite rural place this I’ve lost count how many I went to school with was one or the other suicide mostly my best pal 9 years ago lad that yoused to work for me in between and and old school friend just the other week. (Edited to say there’s been many more in between)

Mental health, no access to children, drug debts, debts, trauma, women the list is endless as to why but when your in it and that thought that the only way out is not to be here must be one of the most powerful thoughts in the world as surely our primary instinct is survival?? 
 

 

Edited June 25 by saluki bouy

[Welsh_red 4,996]

There was a soft lad who is a mummys boy who was part of my football team who i kept a eye on . Was bullies merciless in school,  made to lick piss off the floor and all sorts , continued into the college he went to where different boys all saw him as a easy mark. Since he came to our team at 16 I've always given him extra effort to chat to and got him sitting by me in the pub . He was going to top himself over covid , he had the rope in his rucksack and told him mum he was off for a little walk through the forest . She argued with him to take the dog and in the end like a good boy he agreed . He got to the woods and was set to do it then had the realisation the dog would be left on its own in the middle of the woods .he came home and spilled everything to his mum . He did some work with me and during that time he got caught up in some blackmail thing online where some girl (who was a morrocan man pretending to be a girl) got him touching himself on camera and was extorting money from him.  We managed to control that and I thought that might be the end of him

But , on a positive note he moved over to live with his sister in Australia just over a year ago now and has got himself a girlfriend and is loving his new life away from his past self .  Their is ways back for people because he was nailed on as someone who would top himself eventually if he stayed round here 

[gnasher16 31,346]

Probably the same as some of you's i always booked mental health problems as a load of old bollocks until i saw the way it effected somebody very dear to me......i'll never brush it off with a " pull yourself together " mentality again.

[Blackmag 6,354]

I know how hard mental health is now it's a daily battle like with my youngest lad and like most I always thought get a grip of yourself if I heard it mentioned a young lad that works with me now suffered bad with it through bullying I only got to know him as I was doing a job and two lads were relentless on him I only lasted a very short time before I told what I thought of them the one thing that as helped him and my lad is the gym he doesn't even need to train just being there helps him massively 

Edited June 26 by Blackmag

[Pardus 1,610]

Mental health problems, many suffer from it. It gets talked about a lot these days, but what can really be done about it?

[iworkwhippets 13,134]

9 minutes ago, Pardus said:

Mental health problems, many suffer from it. It gets talked about a lot these days, but what can really be done about it?

Hellooooo, that's one of the reasons I log on, I can spot folks having problems, I try to help,   I have been certified ,,

[gunter 1,512]

9 minutes ago, iworkwhippets said:

Hellooooo, that's one of the reasons I log on, I can spot folks having problems, I try to help,   I have been certified ,,

You would drive someone to put the rope up hellloooo 

[poxon 5,913]

There’s a lot of people with mental health issues these days for various reasons In life I think blokes suffer more due to what’s expected from blokes in life and not really having anyone to turn to a woman can express there feelings a blokes not meant to have feelings if he has he’s seen as a weak man I personally think a blokes worst enemy is his own mind and what’s going on in his head worst thing a bloke can do if he’s down is turn to drink an drugs 

[dodger 3,587]

On 25/06/2025 at 13:21, waltjnr said:

First one I witnessed, properly fked me up ,had a visit from British rail chaplain, the sound woke me up at night ,images you can't erase

I get that some things you can't unsee and affect you iv seen some things and had some bad experiences in life they don't go away, one of the worst is seeing a young child die in a graffic way in front of me be 17 years ago now I won't give the the details as dont want to put it in peoples heads but the avent and little one still goes in my head most days sometimes everyday..

[tatsblisters 10,934]

11 hours ago, poxon said:

There’s a lot of people with mental health issues these days for various reasons In life I think blokes suffer more due to what’s expected from blokes in life and not really having anyone to turn to a woman can express there feelings a blokes not meant to have feelings if he has he’s seen as a weak man I personally think a blokes worst enemy is his own mind and what’s going on in his head worst thing a bloke can do if he’s down is turn to drink an drugs 

That's true mate . I had the black dog come to visit me a while back after receiving a call one night wile leaving work from a former work mate who told me about a lad who who worked with me through the pandemic who i treat like he was my own son who i helped out a bit loaning him a few bob and was always nagging him about him getting a better job as he was wasted working in a warehouse in which he managed to get a well paid job in a steel works to tell me he had been killed at work at the age of 27 after his life was on the up after securing a mortgage with his girlfriend. Got to say it put me on a downer for a wile and was tempted to get pissed up and forget about him though in my own mind i know i would have only felt even more down. 

[gnasher16 31,346]

11 hours ago, dodger said:

I get that some things you can't unsee and affect you iv seen some things and had some bad experiences in life they don't go away, one of the worst is seeing a young child die in a graffic way in front of me be 17 years ago now I won't give the the details as dont want to put it in peoples heads but the avent and little one still goes in my head most days sometimes everyday..

I think a lot of it is hereditary,to me true mental illness comes from a far deeper place than the effects of just seeing something nasty.....yes im sure environmental factors,trauma and suchlike play their part but it cant compare to something you are just born with.....somebody very close to me suffered with mental illness his entire life,his mother was exactly the same and it was medicated to the point it very rarely caused a problem,right up until the very end when i tend to think nature just took over and we ended up losing him....but to compare it to " bad memories " ( not to make light of such things ) i cant really see is the same ball park.....yes its probably all under the banner of mental health and what do we know about it,but the variables must be huge within that field.

[dodger 3,587]

8 hours ago, gnasher16 said:

I think a lot of it is hereditary,to me true mental illness comes from a far deeper place than the effects of just seeing something nasty.....yes im sure environmental factors,trauma and suchlike play their part but it cant compare to something you are just born with.....somebody very close to me suffered with mental illness his entire life,his mother was exactly the same and it was medicated to the point it very rarely caused a problem,right up until the very end when i tend to think nature just took over and we ended up losing him....but to compare it to " bad memories " ( not to make light of such things ) i cant really see is the same ball park.....yes its probably all under the banner of mental health and what do we know about it,but the variables must be huge within that field.

Nothingbi no of from eithervparent but my grandmother was in a concentration camp in ww2 so who knows mate..

[gnasher16 31,346]

16 hours ago, dodger said:

Nothingbi no of from eithervparent but my grandmother was in a concentration camp in ww2 so who knows mate..

Thats exactly what i mean though mate having a grandmother in a concentration camp doesnt make somebody predisposed to mental illness.....what effects one person one way wont effect another person in the same way some folk are just wired different.