I always thought there were a couple of types of queers, your ordinary common or garden old fashioned queer who wouldn’t hurt a fly, puts you shame with how clean and tidy they are type and then (which I think is a more modern thing) the dirty queers that make your skin crawl.
I used to buy a lot of kit off of a few older gay blokes, the city in certain professions is riddled with them and they were too a man, sound as a pound…..many of them had grown up kids because they came from an era where you had to get married and couldn’t be queer out in the open.
My younger daughter is very