I've mentioned this before acouple of years back another site I use has in place a set up whereby a deal like this you send your money to a 3rd party who informs the seller he has the money ,he then sends the goods to the buyer, on receipt of the goods the buyer lets the 3d party know hes received the goods and the money gets forwarded to the seller
Paypal got mentioned under no circumstances send money through Paypal as a gift to avoid their fees,you have no chance of getting a penny back from Paypal as your not covered by them
Y.I.S Leeview