Home schooling

[Daniel cain 50,950]

my oldest lad is currently working towards and sitting 4 GCSEs in the unit he goes too,he starts a  college course next September,doing plastering,so he knows what he wants to do,he wants to graft and earn coin...

[gnipper 7,136]

9 minutes ago, Daniel cain said:

my oldest lad is currently working towards and sitting 4 GCSEs in the unit he goes too,he starts a  college course next September,doing plastering,so he knows what he wants to do,he wants to graft and earn coin...

Good luck to him.

 Schools couldn't handle me so while my mates were doing their gcse exams I was fishing every day, they were supposed to find me something but never did. I started keepering when i was 15 then did a bit of plastering too until my current job 25 year ago and not having any qualifications has never affected my life.

[WataWalloper 5,306]

Way I see schools these days is like getting every animal in an zoo into a room and trying to teach them all to fly like a bird haha it just don’t work for them all 

[waltjnr 8,665]

35 minutes ago, Halfhound said:

Your WILFs uncle

His feisty! If he can't beat them playing football,he lets he's fists talk ,me bro will be getting lots of VO,'s

[Bendigo 2,354]

1 hour ago, waltjnr said:

My bros son ,just gone up to secondary school ,all boys , strict,first few months,countless susspensions ,beat up a wop for insulting his mum ,wop called plod ,paki giving him grieve threw him and his bike in a river,cunnnt called police,recent one he rammed beef hula hoops down a mussies throat doing Ramadan ,a cracking lad ,only 12,gives me hope 

Big Joe raki grabbed my lad in PE round his neck from behind and started trying to choke him, so my lad dropped his shoulder and thrown him.....then wrapped a badminton racket round his head. It was all on CCTV and cool as fck. My lad got suspended. As a one off we could live with it...but he shouldn't have to be doing that every day.

We have made the decision, he ain't going to school after Easter holidays. Already lined up an ex teacher friend to do a couple hours a week maths and someone to teach him Spanish. His brother does AI and software development so he will help with that side of it. I'll even book him on pest control courses, as long as he's working towards loads of different qualifications then it seems like a no brainer 

[Gypsydog94 4,833]

Wouldn’t blame you for taking him out of school my Mrs qualified as a teacher 4 years ago and is about ready to jack it in. The state of the education is a disaster and has only been worse since labour has got in. Under funded under staffed and pandering to certain children is having a knock on effect to the other children in class 

[mC HULL 18,463]

6 hours ago, Bendigo said:

Not sure. 

He's always enjoyed school up until this year. He gave a couple of scroats a good kicking and he's just got himself into a position where every day some older brother or group wants to have a pop. He just can't be bothered anymore. His mates from the first year have all just gone super chav.... dressing in black tracksuits with balaclavas and thinking they are gangster.

Mixed with with the constant left wing preaching and soft teachers. I just can't see the benefit of years more of this. 

He's at cadets, starting boxing again and has plenty friends outside of school. He could change schools to the one most of his mates go to but the reason he didn't go there originally is it's now over 50% Asian. 

So we are looking at all options 

I wouldn't personally mate most kids i see home schooled struggle socially and there always nob heads to deal with let the lad work it out it'll stand him in good stead 

[Bendigo 2,354]

6 hours ago, mC HULL said:

I wouldn't personally mate most kids i see home schooled struggle socially and there always nob heads to deal with let the lad work it out it'll stand him in good stead 

Yes I get that. We would only do it if he's fully involved with friends and social groups elsewhere 

[mC HULL 18,463]

1 hour ago, Bendigo said:

Yes I get that. We would only do it if he's fully involved with friends and social groups elsewhere 

Hes older anyway  so.has that mate thats a bonus i think but again this is just me your teaching him he can quit when it gets a bit rough for.him and he will.get issues all.threw life college work have the same issues 

[waltjnr 8,665]

11 hours ago, waltjnr said:

My bros son ,just gone up to secondary school ,all boys , strict,first few months,countless susspensions ,beat up a wop for insulting his mum ,wop called plod ,paki giving him grieve threw him and his bike in a river,cunnnt called police,recent one he rammed beef hula hoops down a mussies throat doing Ramadan ,a cracking lad ,only 12,gives me hope 

Very eloquently spoken,and by looks you wouldn't think he'd be naughty,but just a malinois x bull in attitude, hopefully get in the forces

[Chid 6,887]

1 hour ago, mC HULL said:

Hes older anyway  so.has that mate thats a bonus i think but again this is just me your teaching him he can quit when it gets a bit rough for.him and he will.get issues all.threw life college work have the same issues 

How are they teaching him he can quit when it's getting a bit rough ... 

By the sounds of it he's done the roughing and now there teaching him to be a better person by avoiding the trouble and working towards being a better man than most by knuckling down and learning stuff what will make him thrive in the future

[Greyman 34,068]

Personally today I would not allow any of my kids into mainstream education it’s just an out dated model to teach kids to give up the best 8 hrs of the day and be subservient to there masters readying them for there warehouse jobs on later life, the internet holds all the knowledge they need have a lady on a boat near me with 4 homeschooled children and they are all a pleasure to be around and lacking in nothing 

[mC HULL 18,463]

10 minutes ago, Chid said:

How are they teaching him he can quit when it's getting a bit rough ... 

By the sounds of it he's done the roughing and now there teaching him to be a better person by avoiding the trouble and working towards being a better man than most by knuckling down and learning stuff what will make him thrive in the future

Thats it hes sticking up.for.his self and like most kids been boxing brought up right he will have a sensible head on his shoulder that I've no doubt mate  

But as a kid its normal for someone you've beat your age to get someone older to come aint it ? At some point your going to come up were its not in your favour 

Now whether its talking or fronting  it wether its fighting and learning to take as little damage as you can or even laying on ya back kicking knees up kicking lol or running 

Or if its all bollocks and the your  learning the thought of something is worse then it happening 

But its all good learning for a young lad id say 

 

[WILF 53,090]

10 hours ago, mC HULL said:

I wouldn't personally mate most kids i see home schooled struggle socially and there always nob heads to deal with let the lad work it out it'll stand him in good stead 

You are talking about subjects you know nothing about again arent you ? lol 

@Bendigo My story is the opposite….(sorry I didn’t get to expand yesterday) 

So, to cut a long story short my lad has been homeschooled since 5, he started mainstream but it was a terrible experience for him and that brought about a subsequent autism diagnosis…..so, quickly realising nobody would understand him like me we took him out of school and just did it ourselves.

Now, for us we had to learn to understand how my lad learns (this isn’t really relevant to your situation but may be handy for anyone with younger kids who are considering home school) ……..so my lad is an audio/visual learner, as in in he can’t sit down and concentrate on a book.

So we had to find other ways, YouTube and gaming he really liked, so I used those things as a prompt…..with his reading it got to a point where he needed to read in order to progress with his gaming so I said “well, if you don’t read you can’t do what you want to do”, and he taught himself to read !! He would ask me words, and sounds and then just worked out how to do it himself !! 
 

With homeschool there is no targets and there is no timescale, you don’t have to hit a KS1, 2, 3 or 4…….they can learn about what they want, when they want in the way that suits them best.

As for social skills, despite him having to fight against his autism all the time he has a good understanding of himself now, he is nearly 13, he understand that it’s his autism making him feel awkward or making his first reaction to not want to do something because we have talked about it all the time, I’ve given him a little push when he needed it and explained why.

So for say, the last 3 or 4 years, my lad has no problem conversing with adults in any social situation you may encounter in the world, shops, street, cafe, supermarket…..you name he can do it, which is a big deal for someone autistic, but we did that together and socially he is fine.

He has for a few years been able to take his own shopping list round the supermarket, get it, go to line, pay, talk to the cashiers…..like, a full trolley of shopping for his mum, no problem.

He can go into my wife’s place of work and interact with adults with various degrees of mental disabilities, from Tourette’s to Down’s syndrome, something even most adults struggle to do but he is totally fine.

Its come full circle to a point where he has asked to go to school and he is now enrolled in secondary school staying September, his choice, he feels he needs to and he is quiet comfortable about it (they don’t start secondary until 13 here) ……

My point is, socially your lad will be fine because he has already been in school and do you know what, maybe he will fly not being in an environment that he hates…..it may allow him to put his social orbit in a place and with people that feel much better to him and that will let him grow in ways he couldn’t have before having to deal with utter shit everyday !

I’m sure he don’t struggle socially because he has already fought that battle like everyone else.

So, some of my post is relevant to you and some maybe relevant to anyone else considering home school…..my advice, you know your lad best and your first thought is your best thought (and that gos for everyone) 

Dont listen to the armchair know nothings, there’s no target, there’s not standard to meet, just help them be a well rounded human being who can function to their best ability in the world…..home school allows you opportunities both educationally and socially that you just won’t get in the system.

Good luck mate, I know he will be fine.