if you believe in your kids then let them be.daughter just left school.never got involved with her revision at all,we just left it up to her.she got 10 A results at gcse.that's what we are doing with the lad with his football.its there choice.just to add before people think it.we are are very run of the mill family,got no money at all,live in the sticks,hunt ,team chase and just get on with it.