Well, by this point in '03 the yanks had taken the capital of Iraq and the entire country would be under occupation a week later.
Iraq was better armed and logistically way more challenging than Ukraine. The Russians are shelling Kyiv and civilian centres now, and it's becoming harder to explain those as legitimate military strikes or mistakes, so it really does seem that arguments that Putin is playing soft are incorrect. The Russian military is just not what Joe Bloggs had imagined it to be, or as the USAF recently said, they're a "near-peer competitor".