Can understand..

[fireman 11,463]

Bit of a mad one but i have a 92 year old neighbour who ain't so stable on his feet and has had a few falls this year,me and my misses have been woken up in the middle of the night by his shouting or screaming in pain and we've had to go round and help him.He has 3 sons who come round one a day and he has a carer who comes in in the morning and evening to help wash and dress him and get him ready for bed  and we go round and chat through the window and i cut his grass etc so he's not on hos own to much.Well today we heard him screaming and i ran round to find him wedged in his bath upstairs,the poor old fella was soaked and it took a while for me and my misses to get him dried and dressed as he can't stand for long.I phoned one of his sons and he came and took over as such but the old boy turned and told me with tears in his eyes he'd gone upstairs to drown himself as he can't take his life no more.It must have taken all he had just to climb those stairs and he must of ran a bit of water then collapsed into the bath.I told his son what he'd said and he said he'd get him some extra help but the old boy has had enough of being like he is which to be honest is a helpless just surviving thing.I'll be looking in his window now every morning before i go to work as i'd rather find him than my misses or young lad and gutted such a cracking fella's life has to end like his is...

[Greb147 6,810]

I've always thought I don't want to die young but after losing both of my grandparents in the space of a year I don't want to slowly waste away like they did. It's horrible and inhumane to see them suffer and if they were dogs they would be put out their misery. 

[Pirate 9000 676]

The sad situation is everyone of the people who are having ended up needing full time care or struggling to look after them selves would have said I never want to end up like that,I can remember my dad saying the exact same thing at my age now,it doesn't look too promising for any of us in old age.

[dytkos 17,954]

Bit like that for us atm, Mrs dad in a care home, now in hospital with pneumonia, 85 and started with dementia also incontinent.

This is a fella who boxed and played rugby and water polo for the Navy and was in the Field Gun Crew,  proper hard old boy, now a shadow of what he was.

Sad as fcuk to see. Hope your neighbour finds peace Steve

Cheers, D.

[jetro 5,349]

It's sad when a loved one gets struck down with an illness and can't look after themselves. 

My mother had a bad stroke at the age of 42. She couldn't fend for her self. 

This led on to other health issues and strokes. 

Over the years it slowly destroyed her more than the stroke did.

I was with her and held her hand as she passed three years ago, and it's sad to say, but never looked more at peace and happy at that moment.

I know it's a terrible thing to say  but sometimes a person is just better off going out like a light. 

I along with my wife and sister looked after my mother, and to watch a loved  one like that, I can understand stand why some take the option 

Atb j 

[Welsh_red 5,057]

My grandad tried killing himself by electrocuting himself on the house electrics after my gran died . It didn't work luckily and he got sent to some place i think for people with mental problems . He was out in a week or back home thankfully . Its hard at that stage of life for some

[jetro 5,349]

1 minute ago, Welsh_red said:

My grandad tried killing himself by electrocuting himself on the house electrics after my gran died . It didn't work luckily and he got sent to some place i think for people with mental problems . He was out in a week or back home thankfully . Its hard at that stage of life for some

It is hard when someone looses a loved one.

My mother lost my father a year or so before her stroke, I thought it was the stress and heartache that brought it on.

Atb j 

[Welsh_red 5,057]

7 minutes ago, jetro said:

It is hard when someone looses a loved one.

My mother lost my father a year or so before her stroke, I thought it was the stress and heartache that brought it on.

Atb j 

You spend your life with someone , all the stresses that come with it , kids , jobs etc . Kids move out and have family of their own and its back to just you and other half . When they go its just you left , the kids give you time and love but they got families and lifes of their own.  Your on your own and it can be a lonely exsistence . My grandad wasnt a pub person or really social apart from the acquaintances him and my gran made so their was nothing for him to drop back to . I do know one thing tho its not all about being forgotten about and literally on your own . My dad built a extension on his house for my grandparents when i was a kid and they lived there for 20 years before my gran went . My dad sees my grandad every day multiple times popping over to tell him something good was on TV or to take him groceries or just to check in on him . Sometimes even thats not enough

[jetro 5,349]

11 minutes ago, Welsh_red said:

You spend your life with someone , all the stresses that come with it , kids , jobs etc . Kids move out and have family of their own and its back to just you and other half . When they go its just you left , the kids give you time and love but they got families and lifes of their own.  Your on your own and it can be a lonely exsistence . My grandad wasnt a pub person or really social apart from the acquaintances him and my gran made so their was nothing for him to drop back to . I do know one thing tho its not all about being forgotten about and literally on your own . My dad built a extension on his house for my grandparents when i was a kid and they lived there for 20 years before my gran went . My dad sees my grandad every day multiple times popping over to tell him something good was on TV or to take him groceries or just to check in on him . Sometimes even thats not enough

I know what you mean.

My mother's world fell apart when my father was killed, then had to deal with a load of family rubbish as well after that. Something had to give. 

Then my sister suddenly died over night at 30, leaving two kids. That was the last straw for her, the light went out, and she was just waiting for the end. 

It's not that she gave up, she just didn't have the physical or mental strength to go on, and going from a hard working woman back to been a helpless child, it crushed her in the end. 

I'm glad your grandad came good, appreciate the time you have left with him, it goes in a heart beat 

Atb j 

[iworkwhippets 13,232]

I could have done without reading this, cos I can fully relate to every word, and feel exactly the same, its brought back strong feelings of how I felt when Ruth passed, middle of the night sheer terror, my way out was this, I was left with lots of her medication so I got my self a jar took me ages to grind down enough tablets mixed em with water, enough to see off a herd of bull elephants, and slept on the settee at night with em clutched in my hands knowing there was a way out, but yes im still here, cos I hadn't the guts a coward, before lockdown I drove to this wood way out in the sticks, where I used to watch fox with cubs, I took a rope strung it up another escape if things got worse, and yes things did get worse, but im still here a coward no guts, the thoughts of me being taken ill folks wiping my arse, I duno what to do, no one has been to this address in months, once a week lifeline rings me up,   how u doing keith,  im not to bad thank you, ok will ring you next Tuesday, im not living im not even existing, im already dead inside, but im still here cos I m a coward no guts hoping summats around the corner

[iworkwhippets 13,232]

few weeks ago one afternoon my phone rang, it was the police, don't worry he says you haven't done anything wrong, apparantley ive been placed on the suicidal risk by McMillan, asked how I was and told em ,   we will ring you next week sir, never heard from them again , yes im still here cos ive no guts a coward

[iworkwhippets 13,232]

heres another one for you,   last Monday this lady rang me up from some charity company, how you doing keith, im not doing to bad, I cant call next week, im on my holidays, ok I says enjoy yaseslf so I don't even have that this week

[fireman 11,463]

5 minutes ago, iworkwhippets said:

I could have done without reading this, cos I can fully relate to every word, and feel exactly the same, its brought back strong feelings of how I felt when Ruth passed, middle of the night sheer terror, my way out was this, I was left with lots of her medication so I got my self a jar took me ages to grind down enough tablets mixed em with water, enough to see off a herd of bull elephants, and slept on the settee at night with em clutched in my hands knowing there was a way out, but yes im still here, cos I hadn't the guts a coward, before lockdown I drove to this wood way out in the sticks, where I used to watch fox with cubs, I took a rope strung it up another escape if things got worse, and yes things did get worse, but im still here a coward no guts, the thoughts of me being taken ill folks wiping my arse, I duno what to do, no one has been to this address in months, once a week lifeline rings me up,   how u doing keith,  im not to bad thank you, ok will ring you next Tuesday, im not living im not even existing, im already dead inside, but im still here cos I m a coward no guts hoping summats around the corner

You Kieth are far from a coward and i'll have a good bet with you many on here also think your a very brave man like i do and bravery don't just mean your brave enough to take some pills or drop from a rope.I posted on here as a sort of release,a get it off my chest type thing as it's shaken me and i ain't to proud to say it.I just wish i could come collect you Keith and bring you down for a weekend fishing on my boat and a evening afterwards watching red deer or some other wild life somewhere on one of my permissions.This lockdown is sure getting to a few folk but please Keith it takes a very brave man to have written what you have on here in the past and don't ever knock yourself for struggling in life as a few times iv'e stood there myself wanting out and only the thought of my kids stood at my graveside kept me here ,i will come collect you when i can as i have promised you a weekend down here and until then stay strong,keep going mate and please take care of yourself as i and many on here do care for you mate...

[iworkwhippets 13,232]

didn't mean to cause you any heartache, and the very thoughts of your offer is good enough for me, thank you

[fireman 11,463]

2 minutes ago, iworkwhippets said:

didn't mean to cause you any heartache, and the very thoughts of your offer is good enough for me, thank you

I know you didn't mate and as it goes i am looking forward to meeting up with you as i like your sense of humour and i recon you have one or two good old stories to tell to,just hang in there until this virus has had it's day and i'll be up to see you and that is a promise Kieth...