agree with mushroom,lost my daughter 10 yrs ago aged 1 day old,a brother at 6 weeks old,nephew 7 yrs old,and yesterday a hunting mate aged just 50 yrs,a door staff mate aged just 38 i could go on but thats enough to show people everyone loses mates,family etc at some point in there lifes,just because there gone the grief is sometimes still there.some say times a great healer-well at times i beg to differ on that one.