scent 509 Posted November 20, 2008 Report Share Posted November 20, 2008 well last june the missus had a mis carrage which really tough for her to get over ,all she ever wanted was child of our own as i have one from another relationship.It took her a long time to come to terms with it and then two weeks ago she hits me with it "baby im pregnant again".This time ot felt beter i was sure it was going to work this time.Anyway i was out lamping monday night when i got the call off her saying she was bleeding so i sped home and rushed her to hospital for tests .Today the doctor rang with that dredded news another baby lost .Im absolutely gutted and dont even know what to say to make things right,what do you do in circumstances like this cause at this stage im bloody lost Quote Link to post Share on other sites
hang & bang 114 Posted November 20, 2008 Report Share Posted November 20, 2008 (edited) f**k sake mate only thing good to take from it is only two weeks in, had a girl i know loose one at 8 months , plenty time to try again gutted for you mate its times like this you have to be grateful for what you have and what you dont (i fell for your missis more) but time is on your side... Edited November 21, 2008 by Simoman Quote Link to post Share on other sites
scent 509 Posted November 20, 2008 Author Report Share Posted November 20, 2008 f**k sake mate only thing good to takr from it is only 2weeks into in had a girl i know loose one at 8m , plenty time to try again gutted four u mate its times like this u have to be grateful four what u have and what u dont (i fell four your missis more mate) but time is on your side... sound pal appreciate it Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Kay 3,709 Posted November 20, 2008 Report Share Posted November 20, 2008 So sorry to hear this Brian, i had 3 misscarriages some yrs ago so do understand how hard it is to deal with. love to you both at this hard time Quote Link to post Share on other sites
scent 509 Posted November 20, 2008 Author Report Share Posted November 20, 2008 So sorry to hear this Brian, i had 3 misscarriages some yrs ago so do understand how hard it is to deal with. love to you both at this hard time Quote Link to post Share on other sites
midnight walker 8 Posted November 20, 2008 Report Share Posted November 20, 2008 sad news mate me and the wife hat 2 mis carriges then we had twin boys now i have4 boys 3 girls Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ferret boy charlie 0 Posted November 20, 2008 Report Share Posted November 20, 2008 (edited) so sorry mate really feel for you my mum had 4 miscarriges before she had us five hope thins turn out for you Edited November 20, 2008 by ferret boy charlie Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest JohnGalway Posted November 20, 2008 Report Share Posted November 20, 2008 I'm sorry to hear it Scent, don't have any advice to give you at all just that my thoughts are with you and your missus Quote Link to post Share on other sites
labsnlurchers 39 Posted November 20, 2008 Report Share Posted November 20, 2008 It's hard to deal with something like this, i have a son and my partner has a daughter. we both really want another child and had been trying for 4 years. I finally got pregnant in 05 and went for an early scan because i had to have anaesthetic whilst i was pregnant. They couldnt find the baby, said it was too early and made an appointment for 2 weeks time, at the next scan they found that the baby was growing in my tube and i had to have both the baby and my tube removed. I havent got pregnant since and was told earlier this year that there is 0 chance of me getting pregnant because my other tube isnt right. It's devestating news and i still get upset about it. I have to have IVF but it costs way too much for us to consider it at the moment but we are hoping in the future we may be in a position to attempt it. From my own experience all i can say is be there for her, i know that when i lost our baby i blamed myself for a long time, so just reassure her that its not her fault. Thats all you can do, theres no miracle cure but there will come a time when the clouds will lift and whilst you will never forget them it wont hurt so much to think about them. All the best x Quote Link to post Share on other sites
scent 509 Posted November 20, 2008 Author Report Share Posted November 20, 2008 It's hard to deal with something like this, i have a son and my partner has a daughter. we both really want another child and had been trying for 4 years. I finally got pregnant in 05 and went for an early scan because i had to have anaesthetic whilst i was pregnant. They couldnt find the baby, said it was too early and made an appointment for 2 weeks time, at the next scan they found that the baby was growing in my tube and i had to have both the baby and my tube removed. I havent got pregnant since and was told earlier this year that there is 0 chance of me getting pregnant because my other tube isnt right. It's devestating news and i still get upset about it. I have to have IVF but it costs way too much for us to consider it at the moment but we are hoping in the future we may be in a position to attempt it.From my own experience all i can say is be there for her, i know that when i lost our baby i blamed myself for a long time, so just reassure her that its not her fault. Thats all you can do, theres no miracle cure but there will come a time when the clouds will lift and whilst you will never forget them it wont hurt so much to think about them. All the best x thanks for the advice pal i appreciate it 100% Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mattydski 560 Posted November 20, 2008 Report Share Posted November 20, 2008 Sorry to hear that bud. Matt Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mackem 29,522 Posted November 20, 2008 Report Share Posted November 20, 2008 Sorry scent,we lost a baby through miscarriage,I always kid myself it was a girl,you have youth on your side mate,it will work out for you in time,but I often find myself thinking "What if....."but thats just a sign of old age. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
lanesra 4,007 Posted November 20, 2008 Report Share Posted November 20, 2008 terrible for yous mate, but take heart from my mate him and his mrs went through 2 the same as yous and they thought they wouldnt have kids now they have 3 lads, be a hard few months ahead mate you have to stay strong for your mrs. goodluck. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Coney 3 Posted November 20, 2008 Report Share Posted November 20, 2008 Feel for you mate... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
SportingShooter 0 Posted November 20, 2008 Report Share Posted November 20, 2008 I'm very sorry to hear such news Scent, I really do know how you feel. All I can do is reiterate what others have said and just be there when she needs you, and be there for each other, not talking about it, or acknowledging it makes it so much harder on the both of you. My thoughts are with the both of you. If you need anything, shout SS Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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