Astanley 11,498 Posted May 28, 2013 Report Share Posted May 28, 2013 Anyone study/practise this ? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
pip1968 2,490 Posted May 28, 2013 Report Share Posted May 28, 2013 i studied it but never learnt nowt Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Astral 253 Posted May 28, 2013 Report Share Posted May 28, 2013 I use it with my clients a lot as I work in psychological services. It basically boils down to remembering not to get so caught up in the what ifs of the future or could haves of the past a remember that now is where you are. Make the most of now. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
redial 81 Posted May 28, 2013 Report Share Posted May 28, 2013 I use it with my clients a lot as I work in psychological services. It basically boils down to remembering not to get so caught up in the what ifs of the future or could haves of the past a remember that now is where you are. Make the most of now. I agree it's about concentrating on today not looking back on what's already happened or what might happen in the future. The here and now like most thing's work's for some but not all. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
northern lad 2,292 Posted May 28, 2013 Report Share Posted May 28, 2013 Can anybody recommend a book please Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Giro 2,648 Posted May 28, 2013 Report Share Posted May 28, 2013 Its a bit airy fairy... Depending on what your requirments are, your likely to have better results with SFBT or CBT. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
northern lad 2,292 Posted May 28, 2013 Report Share Posted May 28, 2013 Its a bit airy fairy... Depending on what your requirments are, your likely to have better results with SFBT or CBT. SFBT/CBT ?? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
paulus 26 Posted May 28, 2013 Report Share Posted May 28, 2013 Its a bit airy fairy... Depending on what your requirments are, your likely to have better results with SFBT or CBT. SFBT/CBT ?? Solution focused brief therapy and Cognitive behavioral therapy Quote Link to post Share on other sites
northern lad 2,292 Posted May 28, 2013 Report Share Posted May 28, 2013 Im trying to skirt round this .....but I cant....the wifes getting really depressed with the state of things with her back complaint,talking about what she wishes she had done when she was physically capable,and how she cant accept that this is the reality of her life now,wondered wether something like this may help,clutching at straws TBH Quote Link to post Share on other sites
albert64 1,882 Posted May 28, 2013 Report Share Posted May 28, 2013 Can anybody recommend a book please do you want it for today ? tomorrow ?or yesterday ? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
northern lad 2,292 Posted May 28, 2013 Report Share Posted May 28, 2013 Can anybody recommend a book please do you want it for today ? tomorrow ?or yesterday ? Yes Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Giro 2,648 Posted May 28, 2013 Report Share Posted May 28, 2013 (edited) Im trying to skirt round this .....but I cant....the wifes getting really depressed with the state of things with her back complaint,talking about what she wishes she had done when she was physically capable,and how she cant accept that this is the reality of her life now,wondered wether something like this may help,clutching at straws TBH Get her to her GP mate.. Good site for advice... http://www.mind.org.uk/ http://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/mentalhealthinfoforall/treatments/cbt.aspx Cronic pain can get you down - pain clinics have specialist therapists.. I would have a good chat with Gp for a starting point.. Edited May 28, 2013 by Giro 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Astral 253 Posted May 28, 2013 Report Share Posted May 28, 2013 Im trying to skirt round this .....but I cant....the wifes getting really depressed with the state of things with her back complaint,talking about what she wishes she had done when she was physically capable,and how she cant accept that this is the reality of her life now,wondered wether something like this may help,clutching at straws TBH I think some CBT would be better suited then, within some counselling maybe? This isn't going to help I know, but what shes going through is totally normal. When you lose some of your abilities you go through a grief cycle just as if somebody has died. This will be a difficult time for your wife as she will be feeling like part of her has died, and now very aware of all the things she took for granted as we are all guilty of. It will be about reminding her of what she can do, and working through it at her pace. In time she will accept what's happened and find a way to manage these feelings. I sincerely wish you both well. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Astral 253 Posted May 28, 2013 Report Share Posted May 28, 2013 Im trying to skirt round this .....but I cant....the wifes getting really depressed with the state of things with her back complaint,talking about what she wishes she had done when she was physically capable,and how she cant accept that this is the reality of her life now,wondered wether something like this may help,clutching at straws TBH Get her to her GP mate.. Good site for advice... http://www.mind.org.uk/ http://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/mentalhealthinfoforall/treatments/cbt.aspx Cronic pain can get you down - pain clinics have specialist therapists.. I would have a good chat with Gp for a starting point.. Excellent advice here too. Trip to the GP first, ask about talking therapies. Pain clinic can refer to a lot of specialist services as well that will include CBT more than likely. Charities like MIND offer voluntary stuff for free and are fantastic. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
spade 224 Posted May 28, 2013 Report Share Posted May 28, 2013 Like has been said ask GP for referral to pain clinic. I suffer with chronic back pain due to degenerated discs and seeing the specialists in pain management really helped. Be aware though that they can sprout some crap that is totally irrelevant to your (wife's) situation but not to be disheartened. With their help (and medication/regular spinal injections) I have gone from been virtually crippled and needing help with just about everything to getting back to my job as a gardener. Best of luck. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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