I think your correct , obese people do blame everyone else for the fact there obese, having recently lost nearly 3 stone i feel better than i did 20 yrs ago, have much more confidence & i dont get out of breath doing the simplist of things now like i did last year, the best day of my life so far was my son saying '' mom your not fat now'' i like you like this , he actually dont mind me being in the same room as him now , i embarrased him basically , it was a wake up call i needed , emotional blackmail i suppose but its made me more aware of my health & it was not good, i feel 100% now