it don't make any difference Kay, they do what they want. I divorced in 95, i changed my job to see more of my kids. They have lived with me half of the working week ever since. Myself and my mother have always bought their clothes and school uniforms, paid for trips and taught them all the basics needed in life. Now two of them (boys)have left school, one is eighteen, the other just left school and my daughter is fifteen, they come and go as they please now that they are old enough with their own keys, sometimes they stay for a week or more as it suits them. The one that has just left school