Am after some parenting advice?

[Annmarie09 5]

i would say thats the norm for a 15 year old boy in this day an age ,wouldnt worry to much normally keeps them out of trouble if anything . i have 2 boys myself 22 and 18 and both of them smoke it ,its just something lads do at that age he will grow out off it one day ,at least normally they just stay in on the xbox and get stonned and you know were they are most of the time instead of wondering were they are and what they are up to ,as for his dad he,ll crawl back into the wood work when your lad starts hounding him for money all the time,and kay that doe,s surprise me that you got one too (lol)

 

I can't believe that anyone would take this point of view, it's not just that the lad may have been smoking the stuff, it's that his so-called dad was trying to get him to deal for him. He's only just 15 for god's sake, what happens once the police have him on their radar as a dealer? I certainly wouldn't be happy if my son was sitting on his bum all day playing games and smoking!

 

Perhaps a word with the local bobbies might be an idea, just to sound them out as to whether they could send someone round (a community officer or someone) to have a gentle talk with your son about the consequences of being done as a dealer. That's if there are any further problems about it. Hopefully the chat with the lad will have persuaded him that it isn't worth it, I think you have done the right thing.

 

didnt mean the selling of it and i think you new that

 

Well no, because you didn't say, but fair enough. Not criticising here because it's nothing to do with me but I'm curious, if your son is 22 when do you think he'll "grow out of it"? Someone close to me was smoking a lot of weed as a teenager and it lost him a couple of good jobs, as well as nearly burning my parents house down. The odd joint here and there is one thing, but regularly getting stoned is not something I consider healthy. And yes, I have tried it (I also tried it as a painkiller but without too much success), but never, ever since my child was born.

 

well like i said he,s 22 years of age (an adult ) so thats up to him ,he works and dosnt drink at all ,would rather him have a spliff or 2 now and again than be up town every weekend getting pissed and into fights and loads of bother ,both my lads have an heart of gold and would never burgle someones house or theive off anyone ,its not a perfect world we live in and i think ive done alright with bringing them up ,i know a lot worse people that come from very good familys and hey its 2010 ,at least he hasnt come home telling me he,s gay and that he,s getting wed to some faggot good luck with your perfect family and thats not a pisstake ,i realy hope it all works out for you because paranting is hard work at the best of times,oh and did you tell your mum and dad that you used to smoke it now and again ......the very best of luck with the future

 

Oh well that sounds quite reasonable, you gave the impression that teenage and young men should be allowed to site around on their bums all day getting stoned. The odd spliff is nothing to worry about (as and adult, obviously), as I said before. Of course I didn't tell my parents, they are totally innocent as it were, they didn't know what the strange smell in the house was! My family is far from perfect, believe me, and as a single parent I know how hard it is, and it can only get harder as my son grows up. The choice to be a single parent was forced on me due to alcohol. I know its not a perfect world, I am not happy that I have had to have a talk with my 8 year old son about what he should do if he gets offered any drugs at school, if someone takes a knife or other weapon to school etc.

 

PS I know all you red-blooded males out there won't agree but I'd rather my son grew up to be gay than find out he's a thief, junkie (and I mean the hard stuff here), alcoholic or woman beater!

[Tiff 36]

Kritian any update on the homefront drama?