The big "C"

[mad al 146]

What an illness and why in this day and age can't they find the cure , they seem quick enough to add stuff to the ever growing list of stuff that causes it

 

Today I went to see a fella I've got to know over the last few years, sixty five years old, retired about five years ago from his own coal delivery business, just starting to enjoy life, bought a beautiful motor home for him and his Mrs to shoot off whenever they fancy two weeks ago they gave him three months to live , what I saw today was basically a bag of bones and lucky if he survives the third week .

 

I'd gone over ready for some banter to try and ease the time for him, but when I got there FFS!!!, his Mrs could barely understand him so I had no hope, they thought it was the doctor as they'd been waiting for him most of the feckin day , still hadn't been at 18.40 , but then maybe that's what it's all about, why rush to folk in this situation , why produce a cure as it sure as hell helps to keep the population down

 

That's life I guess and it was no beach for the fella I didn't recognise today

[Malt 379]

Sorry to hear about your mate Alan, that's not good news for anyone to hear.

[mad al 146]

Cheers Mal, talk about lost for words though, even Bee had a shock when she saw him today and that was in the space of four days. He's always worked hard and totally chilled when he retired, "mae wedi neud ein siar"

There was no depends what him or his Mrs would say to us next, so it was a real home from home so to speak. I'd taken a Gammo PT80 with me to offer an alternative to the Morphine and after thinking long and hard about it, I just pulled it out and did manage to lift a bit of the cloud.

[Guest jbswildlife]

sorry to hear your news mate. thats one way no-one wants

[jeppi 49]

sorry to hear that mate

mi dads mate ad it 3weeks

nar carnt even move he

lives on the sofa nar its

wank you would think that

thay would av thought of

a cure by now

[SNAP SHOT 194]

there's not many people who have not been touched by the big C one way or the other, its a terrible disease,

And speaking first hand from someone who has lost an auntie, and nearly lost a father, it changes your perspective on life.......

My father had one of the rarest forms of cancer but the most treatable, thank god,

but it was a long hard struggle, he failed away to nothing, and thank god for the thinking of a new specialist, who just started in the hospital, my father was his first cancer patient, he has seen a hell of a lot since,

i feel for you mate, i know what your feeling believe me.......i wish your mate well,

[parksie 2]

Sorry to hear your news mate, I lost my Grandad, my Uncle to cancer and almost my aunt to cancer, horrible thing to see perfectly healthy people (Grandad was a strong farmer type and uncle was a game keeper, keen fisherman etc) reduced to bags of bones like you say. Still brings a tear to my eye when I think of my Grandad that way, like to remember him as the big strong bloke always happy to help everyone, taught me a lot in life he did. Hopefully some day soon they will find a cure for this horrible disease. I really do feel for you mate because I've been there a few times.

[mad al 146]

I lost my Dad to this disease and spent the last six weeks of his life with him 24/7. He never once asked, never complained and nobody dare tell him, the rest of my family left it to me, I'm not really bitter about that as they just couldn't deal with it. My Mam would never have coped and basically just visited with one of my brothers or my sister. I remember the day of the biopsy results, I worked for the NHS, I knew Jo the consultant and I had no bullshit and I all I asked was that he did not suffer.

It was never discussed from that day on, everyone thinkin my Dad would never know and I can still feel his strength, the day he caught hold of me from his death bed, just a shell of the man who was my my Dad, just over ten years ago, me just over 45, pulling me close..............."I'm fecked boy"

One night I was told to go home, they would give me a call, about five hours later they did, I was with him as he gasped his last breath to get more and more air, me begging him just to let go, him trying to hang on to me and the last bit of life he had left and then gone, that was about 05.30, by 09.00 I was out running in the fresh air thinking how easy it was to run on this morning with not a cloud in the sky and this strange feeling of a weight being taken off me.

I found so much out after he died about how he'd always wanted to live as close to me as possible, and it all fell in to shape, I'd a "L" shaped house which was split in two so my parents could sell up and spend their last days not having to worry about out, my Dad and me had worked our guts out to finish it, even about three months before he died he could still leave in the dust when it came to manual labour.

Funny, I guess he knew all along that I'd be there and you know, I didn't find it at all hard, I'm not saying it was easy, but he was my Dad, always will be as he's always with me, everywhere.

[SportingShooter 0]

That is very touching Al Made me think as I read it.

 

And I'm very saddened to hear of your Friend, we have all seen it, and I'm not leaving myself from that, to see people go to nothing.

 

Keep his chin up for as long as you can, "Mae hen Wlad Fy N'hadau"

 

SS

[Guest buster321c]

My Uncle is just going throught his second stage of chemo , and hes bearing up ok . He had it a few years back, and overcame it . A close friend of mine has been dead for 2 years in Febuary , her daughter comes round every day ( shes 14 now ) and looks more like her mum every day . Before she died Liz had a very long and hard battle , ending up with both breasts removed , then finding it had spread to her lungs , and the aggressive treatment gave her heart problems . It was cruel to see her like this . Almost watching her suffering . We were all just waiting for the end . She fought hard to see Charlotte go into `Big school` , it was the thing she wanted to see most . In her last few weeks Liz wrote a birthday and christmas card for every year until Charlotte is 21 , and kept a diary for her just to make sure that she knows how much she loved her . When she died , i found it hard to go and see Charlotte and Mark , but they had found strength through Liz and managed to come to terms with it .

 

Goodnight Liz x

Love you , miss you

[Back Stabbath 1]

Very sorry to hear it mad al.

 

Its a freak disease, a S. African doctor friend of my mums was diagnosed with a brain tumour a few months back. A year to live with treatment. I mean how can you prevent this bloody disease? Maybe positive/negative energy may have something to do with it, I don't know, who knows.

 

 

Good luck mate.

Edited December 15, 2008 by Back Stabbath

[brookie 1,193]

i lost my father to cancer he was a butcher by trade and arns like a bullocks front leg he was 16 stone when he died in my arms he was barely 5 stone for years i watched him suffer terribly and never once complained a few days before he died i took him out in a wheel chair and we stopped by a tree he had climbed to get me down when i became stuck up as a child . look after your mother for me he said . if and when it comes to me i hope i can emulate his bravery and dignaty for my family as he did rwyn dy garu di tad

[antg 1,729]

went out last night for a few jars as i normaly do on a monday night. a fella ive known for years and yoused to sit in our company didnt turn up. we got the sad news he had passed away with the dreaded big C. will be a miss as he was a smashing fella. what a terable ilness it is

[scrubworm 0]

sorry to hear your bad news al ,life really dishes some shitty stuff up for some of us ,who knows why ,makes one think how lucky we are to have good health ,regards.

[redmoor 0]

Sorry to read this..cancer is so cruel and so indescrimate. My mum had ovarian back in 2000 - thansk to a great team of Docs and chemo she is still here to tell the tale..i had a run in with it last year and my friend currently has breast cancer..there is no-one out there that you speak to who doesnt know someone affected. Thoughts to you and your friend.