countrymaid 2 Posted March 4, 2007 Report Share Posted March 4, 2007 Im probably opening a right can of worms here but id like other people's opinions on this one. Ive just come out of an 10 year relationship and now when i look back me and the ex where from totaly different backgrounds. He was a townie and hated me having dogs,horses and a country life, im a real countrylass and im into country persuits like hunting/lamping. What do people on this web site think about Townies and Country, can Townies ever be converted properly to being country people. One of the local farms near where i live has just been bought by a wealthy city family they have converted the barns for holiday apartments and they are kicking up about evreything. What are your views on this, are any of you lot in mixed relationships like i was. Countrymaid Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mad al 146 Posted March 4, 2007 Report Share Posted March 4, 2007 Hello , relationships are an eyeopener when you can look back on them . I was married to my first wife for 20 years plus and it was only when we divorced that I saw her in the clear light of day . Both of us were I'd say townies, but both loved the country life as well, the only difference on that score was she couldn't handle me killing game etc, then eating it. Although I was town born, a lot of my life has been countrylife related and is now totally in the driving seat . It is a big haul for me to even contemplate going to a town or city. This change for me has been brought about by several things, but my life now is my family, I am now married to a "countrylass" nineteen years my junior and we have a beutiful six year old daughter, a small farm, a horse and four dogs. I literally have to be dragged away from home and don't particularly want any visitors apart from some genuine friends. My eldest brother has also moved out of town into the country and is involved in hunting/shooting/dog breeding/ fishing etc in a pretty big way, so I'd say yes, people can adapt to country life, provided they respect traditional values, now if I had someone living nearby like the people who have moved into the farm where you are, I'm afraid I wouldn't give them the time of day. In the village down from us, we hardly know anybody on the street these days and my wife was born and bred there. At times I find this quite odd, another thing that was quite strange was going to the other side of the county to buy hay yesterday, stopping and asking for directions, not one of the people were actually Welsh and could hardly be bothered to reply!!!!! Thankfully we came across an old farm and from the equipment etc was obviously still in use and they gladly pointed us in the right direction . What you said about the activities in the farm near you, this is unfortunately, "modern life", they can keep it as far as we are concerned.............Al Quote Link to post Share on other sites
FPO 0 Posted March 4, 2007 Report Share Posted March 4, 2007 Firstly on the subject of mixed relationships, Yep in all honesty they can work. Been with other half for 13 years and married for 8 of them. Ask him and he will say I was a townie (suberb of bristol!) I did have fields behind were I lived and contact with the animals in them, but they were more pets than income for person who had them. Can still remeber the first time husband brought home pigeon for tea! Deal was he prepared it and cooked it if I would try some Loved it Slowly became more involved with that side of things, to the point were I am often out Trapsing around fields with a large battery on my back and carrying his lamp! or sat on one side of a hedgerow waiting for rabbits to bolt into the nets. Love it. I think it is all down to the indivuals concerned. I was willing to listen to what he had to say and see the error of my bunny hugging ways!!! If someone doesnt want to adapt then I think it is doomed from word go. He is one of those guys who likes me involved with what he does and appreciates the help. so guess I am kinda lucky! 13 years on from being a townie secretary I now milk 450 cows 5 days a week for a local farmer!! As for people moving into the countryside, I have mixed feelings, I have no problem with them coming in but really feel they need to embrass the whole thing, not just the great local pub and the country dream! I moved from bristol and now live in cornwall, but have to earn a living not just sit around and enjoy. We are in the situation of not being able to afford any of the properties around Not even a mid terrace in centre of Bodmin! Lost the house we were renting last year because after tidying the place up our landlords deceided to sell it! now on the market for over £350,000 - before it would have not made £200,000! People are looking at it from up smoke with the intention of commuting each week, now that makes me sick. It is pulling the communities apart, you cant blame people for selling to the highest bidder, but some villages are really becoming ghost towns, only inhabbited at w/e and holidays, really sad. On a final note. People that dont like the way things are done in the country should go somewhere else Still hear of people complaining about bells ringing and dogs in pubs etc. One of our local landlords puts it quite well, 'If you dont like it p off!!' Most days there are 5+ dogs in pub at any one time! One of the few pubs that stays open all day during winter and appeciates his locals. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
countrymaid 2 Posted March 4, 2007 Author Report Share Posted March 4, 2007 Hello , relationships are an eyeopener when you can look back on them . I was married to my first wife for 20 years plus and it was only when we divorced that I saw her in the clear light of day .Both of us were I'd say townies, but both loved the country life as well, the only difference on that score was she couldn't handle me killing game etc, then eating it. Although I was town born, a lot of my life has been countrylife related and is now totally in the driving seat . It is a big haul for me to even contemplate going to a town or city. This change for me has been brought about by several things, but my life now is my family, I am now married to a "countrylass" nineteen years my junior and we have a beutiful six year old daughter, a small farm, a horse and four dogs. I literally have to be dragged away from home and don't particularly want any visitors apart from some genuine friends. My eldest brother has also moved out of town into the country and is involved in hunting/shooting/dog breeding/ fishing etc in a pretty big way, so I'd say yes, people can adapt to country life, provided they respect traditional values, now if I had someone living nearby like the people who have moved into the farm where you are, I'm afraid I wouldn't give them the time of day. In the village down from us, we hardly know anybody on the street these days and my wife was born and bred there. At times I find this quite odd, another thing that was quite strange was going to the other side of the county to buy hay yesterday, stopping and asking for directions, not one of the people were actually Welsh and could hardly be bothered to reply!!!!! Thankfully we came across an old farm and from the equipment etc was obviously still in use and they gladly pointed us in the right direction . What you said about the activities in the farm near you, this is unfortunately, "modern life", they can keep it as far as we are concerned.............Al It sounds like you have a nice family life now,my ex hated me involving the children in countrylife. Now that hes gone we have our small holding the way we like it, we have ponies,chickens and our kennels. The kids love going out lamping and my 2 eldist earn a little pocket money from selling rabbits they have caught with the dogs. Also if there are a few dog hairs on the carpet now who gives a stuff !!! we dont Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mad al 146 Posted March 4, 2007 Report Share Posted March 4, 2007 Hell that sounds like home to me, I bet you're all enjoying every minute of it ...............Al Quote Link to post Share on other sites
countrymaid 2 Posted March 4, 2007 Author Report Share Posted March 4, 2007 Firstly on the subject of mixed relationships, Yep in all honesty they can work. Been with other half for 13 years and married for 8 of them. Ask him and he will say I was a townie (suberb of bristol!) I did have fields behind were I lived and contact with the animals in them, but they were more pets than income for person who had them. Can still remeber the first time husband brought home pigeon for tea! Deal was he prepared it and cooked it if I would try some Loved it Slowly became more involved with that side of things, to the point were I am often out Trapsing around fields with a large battery on my back and carrying his lamp! or sat on one side of a hedgerow waiting for rabbits to bolt into the nets. Love it. I think it is all down to the indivuals concerned. I was willing to listen to what he had to say and see the error of my bunny hugging ways!!! If someone doesnt want to adapt then I think it is doomed from word go. He is one of those guys who likes me involved with what he does and appreciates the help. so guess I am kinda lucky! 13 years on from being a townie secretary I now milk 450 cows 5 days a week for a local farmer!! As for people moving into the countryside, I have mixed feelings, I have no problem with them coming in but really feel they need to embrass the whole thing, not just the great local pub and the country dream! I moved from bristol and now live in cornwall, but have to earn a living not just sit around and enjoy. We are in the situation of not being able to afford any of the properties around Not even a mid terrace in centre of Bodmin! Lost the house we were renting last year because after tidying the place up our landlords deceided to sell it! now on the market for over £350,000 - before it would have not made £200,000! People are looking at it from up smoke with the intention of commuting each week, now that makes me sick. It is pulling the communities apart, you cant blame people for selling to the highest bidder, but some villages are really becoming ghost towns, only inhabbited at w/e and holidays, really sad. On a final note. People that dont like the way things are done in the country should go somewhere else Still hear of people complaining about bells ringing and dogs in pubs etc. One of our local landlords puts it quite well, 'If you dont like it p off!!' Most days there are 5+ dogs in pub at any one time! One of the few pubs that stays open all day during winter and appeciates his locals. Its all holiday homes here in Devon where i live, us locals are being slowly forced out around here. These people that have moved in near me have objected to a local knackerman building a small meat rendering unit near this farm they have bought. The public dont relise that the farming community needs somewhere to get rid of carcasses as the local hunt kennels can only take so much, they just dont want it on there door steps. There has also been alot of complaints as well about Human sewage being spread on the fields around here. If it can no longer be dumped at sea it has to go somewhere Quote Link to post Share on other sites
FPO 0 Posted March 4, 2007 Report Share Posted March 4, 2007 Know what you are saying countrymaid! They dont like the idea that their shit really does stink! now the farmers have to pay to have fallen stock taken away they end up lying around for days waiting for collections, but whos fault is that, Its only because of townie legislation that has closed down a load of the outlets for fallen stock that has made the problem like it is. We have a large lagoon near us that has all the septic tanks etc emptied into it for spreading by local farmer, not that bad really, only when they give it a good stir!! Had the chance to see it one day, amazing how many people dont realize that rubber does not decompose!! , bet its not the country folks! Your place sounds great, have auntie/uncle in Lynmouth love it around there, but think work is even harder to come by as all their family has moved away, bar one who married a sheep farmer. All the best and Think you are probably better off without him! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest MOLLY Posted March 4, 2007 Report Share Posted March 4, 2007 I wrote this not long after moving into the country http://thehuntinglife.com/html/sections/ar...thecountry.html MOLL. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Lurcherbitch Posted March 4, 2007 Report Share Posted March 4, 2007 I wrote this not long after moving into the country http://thehuntinglife.com/html/sections/ar...thecountry.html MOLL. very well put. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Rabbithunter 456 Posted March 4, 2007 Report Share Posted March 4, 2007 im from a city, but i love the country Quote Link to post Share on other sites
FPO 0 Posted March 4, 2007 Report Share Posted March 4, 2007 Nicely put molly, Thanks for reminding me of these things. Had me in giggles remebering our fist place down here, Idilic people would say in the middle of a dairy farm, but like you say they dont realise that the yards in the summer are filled with Bitting flys as bad but more profuse than horse flies and our farm started scraping yards at 3.30! and was only 10 meters away from the back of our house! Didnt worry about the garden, instead went walking to avoid flies that attack as soon as you try and hang out the washing! the previous tenants had caught the regular visiting mice with live catch traps and then released them out into their garden But as you say it is wonderful and a well kept secret, we havent been out partying the new year in for at least 5 years now, it is wonderful and quiet and great to look at stars with the new year coming in. As for the lack of TV signal, Ive heard rumor of this but havent had telly for 10 years so luckily one problem I dont have!! Pottering is probably the best way to sum it up, have friends down sometimes and they find my theory of tea will be ready when the aga has cooked it strange. just no point in rushing it Casserole in cooking as i speak and will eat it when hungry! probably by 9ish but never seems to burn in bottom of aga! PS how do you deal with the green mold that invades the base of the bed when there is no central heating or double glazing Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mad al 146 Posted March 4, 2007 Report Share Posted March 4, 2007 I wrote this not long after moving into the country http://thehuntinglife.com/html/sections/ar...thecountry.html MOLL. Traditional values eh Molly? That was an excellent read .................Al Quote Link to post Share on other sites
FPO 0 Posted March 4, 2007 Report Share Posted March 4, 2007 Sorry rabbithunter, just realised that I might sound in my earlier post as slagging off town dwealers, Us lot out in the sticks realise how lucky we are. Think there are genuine people who are still stuck in the towns that should be out in the country as well as those who would class themselves as country people who should go to a town and stay there! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
stubby 175 Posted March 4, 2007 Report Share Posted March 4, 2007 I was born as a townie, and my other half was born in rural yorkshire, yet we compliment each other, we have only been together for 3yrs but after saying I'd never get married again, I will her... we met as we were both bikers, yet the last year and a half I havent rode at all, but gone over to the country life and style, and she still loves me could easily see us moving back up north one day.... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Macnas Posted March 4, 2007 Report Share Posted March 4, 2007 I dont really think its an issue, me Ma was from the city and Da was country, never a problem. But times change I suppose, in the modern sense it may lead to some friction I guess. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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