NEWKID 26,191 Posted June 7, 2021 Report Share Posted June 7, 2021 11 hours ago, SheepChaser said: We discussed the bench idea mate. I quite liked the idea but there’s always the fear some scrotes will trash or somehow or other sadly. When I spoke to Dave at the fishery last week he said they are putting a bench where John done the auction each year with a plaque on in his memory.... Only a little gesture I know but shows what people thought of him... 13 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
SheepChaser 8,082 Posted June 7, 2021 Report Share Posted June 7, 2021 33 minutes ago, NEWKID said: When I spoke to Dave at the fishery last week he said they are putting a bench where John done the auction each year with a plaque on in his memory.... Only a little gesture I know but shows what people thought of him... That’s awesome!!!! 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
SheepChaser 8,082 Posted June 7, 2021 Report Share Posted June 7, 2021 We are hoping to bring kain and lexi down this year to the comp mate. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
NEWKID 26,191 Posted June 7, 2021 Report Share Posted June 7, 2021 12 minutes ago, SheepChaser said: We are hoping to bring kain and lexi down this year to the comp mate. Thats brilliant, I had said about bringing them down but was unsure how that would go.... really pleased they are coming down.. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
SheepChaser 8,082 Posted June 7, 2021 Report Share Posted June 7, 2021 Just now, NEWKID said: Thats brilliant, I had said about bringing them down but was unsure how that would go.... really pleased they are coming down.. I’ve spoken to Rach and we will sort it out mate. Owain and me will come up with a plan. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
socks 32,253 Posted June 7, 2021 Author Report Share Posted June 7, 2021 Without trying to sound like a Cnut do you think that’s a good idea ... that’s very soon after their fathers death and it’s going to bring back a lot of memories and the comp will be different this year as it is but it’s going to be a really tough weekend with two very emotional and upset teenagers ... people are going to be conscious about having to much fun for fear of upsetting the kids ... I dont know just my thoughts and experiences with teenagers that have lost parents ....... 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
WILF 44,299 Posted June 7, 2021 Report Share Posted June 7, 2021 4 minutes ago, socks said: Without trying to sound like a Cnut do you think that’s a good idea ... that’s very soon after their fathers death and it’s going to bring back a lot of memories and the comp will be different this year as it is but it’s going to be a really tough weekend with two very emotional and upset teenagers ... people are going to be conscious about having to much fun for fear of upsetting the kids ... I dont know just my thoughts and experiences with teenagers that have lost parents ....... The best way is to ask them mate, explain hopes and fears surrounding the idea and let them make the decision. They may not feel up to it especially if they are not close to anyone there, it’s a lonely place loosing your dad when you are young. If they did come, I personally would have a non drinking nominated driver ready to take them home at a moments notice if it all becomes a bit overwhelming. jmho 5 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
SheepChaser 8,082 Posted June 7, 2021 Report Share Posted June 7, 2021 24 minutes ago, socks said: Without trying to sound like a Cnut do you think that’s a good idea ... that’s very soon after their fathers death and it’s going to bring back a lot of memories and the comp will be different this year as it is but it’s going to be a really tough weekend with two very emotional and upset teenagers ... people are going to be conscious about having to much fun for fear of upsetting the kids ... I dont know just my thoughts and experiences with teenagers that have lost parents ....... They want to go mate, they are two teenagers and have asked if they could come along as a bit of a tribute, and to see the lads and kids they’ve become friendly with. I wasn’t sure which way it would go, but if that’s what they want, I will make it happen. And be there for some emotional support along the way! 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
SheepChaser 8,082 Posted June 7, 2021 Report Share Posted June 7, 2021 There’s also a chance that their mum will come along as well. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
socks 32,253 Posted June 7, 2021 Author Report Share Posted June 7, 2021 3 minutes ago, SheepChaser said: They want to go mate, they are two teenagers and have asked if they could come along as a bit of a tribute, and to see the lads and kids they’ve become friendly with. I wasn’t sure which way it would go, but if that’s what they want, I will make it happen. And be there for some emotional support along the way! I completely understand them wanting to be there ... what I’m asking is ... is that the correct decision for them ........ 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
SheepChaser 8,082 Posted June 7, 2021 Report Share Posted June 7, 2021 19 minutes ago, socks said: I completely understand them wanting to be there ... what I’m asking is ... is that the correct decision for them ........ That’s something I can’t answer mate. But I’m not entirely comfortable telling them that they cannot go. Kids are way way more resilient and capable then we give them credit for. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
socks 32,253 Posted June 7, 2021 Author Report Share Posted June 7, 2021 4 minutes ago, SheepChaser said: That’s something I can’t answer mate. But I’m not entirely comfortable telling them that they cannot go. Kids are way way more resilient and capable then we give them credit for. Unfortunately they’re not mate I’ve buried a lot of mates with teenage kids and I’ve seen the aftermath when they attend a social event that their father would have been at. It’s natural for them to be lost and devastated and teenage hormones and anger and sadness compound it and make it worst. I’m not saying it’s right or wrong or whether they should go or not I’m just saying maybe it should be thought on before a decision is made ........ 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
SheepChaser 8,082 Posted June 7, 2021 Report Share Posted June 7, 2021 1 minute ago, socks said: Unfortunately they’re not mate I’ve buried a lot of mates with teenage kids and I’ve seen the aftermath when they attend a social event that their father would have been at. It’s natural for them to be lost and devastated and teenage hormones and anger and sadness compound it and make it worst. I’m not saying it’s right or wrong or whether they should go or not I’m just saying maybe it should be thought on before a decision is made ........ I get what you’re saying mate, I really do. I’ve worked with a lot of kids in some pretty messed up situations, post death, sexual abuse etc etc I don’t know the right answer on this one, and I agree it needs thinking through and being sensitive about. Might be that they just come down for the one day etc But trust me, nothing will be rushed into or done without thought and I very much agree with your fears / concerns. We will have to play it by ear at the time, but I don’t think I can flat out say ‘no you can’t go I’m not taking you’ to two kids like that. 5 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
fireman 10,774 Posted June 7, 2021 Report Share Posted June 7, 2021 What someone maybe should tell them that the fishing comp has been going on for a while and it was a thing their Dad went to,it's not a thing for him as such... I'm sorry if i sound a bit to the point but better to say it how it is, but everyone who goes should crack on as normal as they always have done be they go or not... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
SheepChaser 8,082 Posted June 7, 2021 Report Share Posted June 7, 2021 5 minutes ago, fireman said: What someone maybe should tell them that the fishing comp has been going on for a while and it was a thing their Dad went to,it's not a thing for him as such... I'm sorry if i sound a bit to the point but better to say it how it is, but everyone who goes should crack on as normal as they always have done be they go or not... Um I think they know this mate, having been a bunch of times and all, and having made friends with a bunch of the lads who go and their kids. Not trying to be a dick like, but how come everyone over complicates every thing...... 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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