WILF 44,266 Posted October 22, 2019 Report Share Posted October 22, 2019 It will be a f***ing terrible day for you, make no mistake. Nobody can take one ounce of that load off you and I’m sure many reading your heartbreaking posts wish they could. However the only advice I can offer is, when it’s done put it down and leave it there. Turn your face to the sun and get on with the business of living and honouring the memory of your wife which is, I’m sure, exactly what she would have wanted you to do. Dont make the postscript to her life a tragic one, you have to be a stronger man than that. Keep us all posted and I hope to see a few accounts of some days spent out in the field from you as I’m sure we all do. 12 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
iworkwhippets 12,247 Posted October 23, 2019 Author Report Share Posted October 23, 2019 ok lads to thank you all for your kind words just doesn't seem enough . but ive nowt else to offer, had the stroke team in on Monday .they are pleased with my progress, but im just a bit unsteady on my pins, so macmillan and a nurse will be escorting me to the funeral, also a mental health team visit me every day, they are concerned for my safety, their words not mine, ive made it quite clear that I have two options open to me, but promised doctors and macmilan I wont do nothing silly until I have done my final bit for Ruthy today, but why should I grieve when there is a way out, now if any of you members or mods think im an attention seeking old git. then by all means close the topic., im sad, im lonely, and im in tears, sorry lads Quote Link to post Share on other sites
nothernlite 18,025 Posted October 23, 2019 Report Share Posted October 23, 2019 Lost for words Keith stay strong for Ruthy Quote Link to post Share on other sites
neil b 2,264 Posted October 23, 2019 Report Share Posted October 23, 2019 Stay strong Keith, my thoughts are with you today, Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Jonjon79 13,340 Posted October 23, 2019 Report Share Posted October 23, 2019 All the best for today Keith Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Daniel cain 42,837 Posted October 23, 2019 Report Share Posted October 23, 2019 Our thoughts are with you today, stay strong Keith Quote Link to post Share on other sites
sussex 5,776 Posted October 23, 2019 Report Share Posted October 23, 2019 Hard day ahead mate , best wishes .... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
fireman 10,774 Posted October 23, 2019 Report Share Posted October 23, 2019 My Lady is off with her brother to bury his Dad today,a sorrowful day for some for sure.May it go without to much hurt Keith and may Ruthy sleep in peace.. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Arry 18,570 Posted October 23, 2019 Report Share Posted October 23, 2019 Be strong Keith. Think how she would want you be. You will be honouring her that way. All the very best on this the hardest day of them all. Atb. Arry 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
gnasher16 29,625 Posted October 23, 2019 Report Share Posted October 23, 2019 Just be natural mate,cry like a baby if you need to its all part of grieving......after today the rebuilding process starts and its one hour at a time,one day at a time and so on.....all the best. 11 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
pesky1972 4,927 Posted October 23, 2019 Report Share Posted October 23, 2019 I hope today went as well as could be expected. All any of us can hope for when our time’s up is that we were loved. Nothing else matters. And if she knew you loved her to the end, and I’m sure she did, then you did her proud friend. As for anyone thinking you’re attention seeking..., nothing could be further from the truth. There’ll be hundreds, maybe thousands of lads and lasses on here who’s hearts are breaking for your troubles. I’ve read the posts and they’re heartfelt. Many probably haven’t posted because they can’t find the right words. I can’t, but would only urge that you hang in there pal. 18 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Francie 6,362 Posted October 23, 2019 Report Share Posted October 23, 2019 I hope your doing OK Keith, wish I was there to give ye a wee hug buddy, we're all here for you. Prayers offered up for you an Ruth, God bless 6 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
iworkwhippets 12,247 Posted October 24, 2019 Author Report Share Posted October 24, 2019 On 19/10/2019 at 15:37, fireman said: Not a chance have you let her down and everyone else will say the same mate,you have to look after yourself as she would have wanted and sometimes that takes all we have to do such a thing.My brother died a few years back suddenly and he and his lady were both very much loaners,his funeral happened and she never came.In the next few months she didn't answer her phone or reply to messages etc so two of my other brothers went to see her.She was in such a mess she was taken to hospital and never left it as she had stopped looking after herself and she died of septiss with in the week and it was as tragic as loosing our own brother to see and i know Ruthy wouldn't want that of you,so no matter how hard it is rise yourself in the morning and sort yourself out for the day ahead.I'm off work on holiday next week and i'd drive up and spend a day with you or even hold your hand on wednesday if you wanted someone with you? ,very forward of me i know mate but don't feel as though you have to bare the burden of it all by yourself..pm me if you wish... hey up matey and sorry for the late reply, you weren't being forward at all my friend, most kind of you, well its all over with now. apart from me grieving, its 3 30 am, and ive done nowt except pace from room to room, staring through every window but theres nowt there, I had lots to say to you all, but its all gone out my head, but thanks once again to you all for listening to me, ive been a member of this forum for years, and theres folk replying to my topic, I never expected in a million years, ive done all my whinging now cheers lads, you've all been a great source of comfort to me, thank you 10 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
nothernlite 18,025 Posted October 24, 2019 Report Share Posted October 24, 2019 Be strong keith heading up the hills my thoughts are with you Quote Link to post Share on other sites
fireman 10,774 Posted October 24, 2019 Report Share Posted October 24, 2019 3 hours ago, iworkwhippets said: hey up matey and sorry for the late reply, you weren't being forward at all my friend, most kind of you, well its all over with now. apart from me grieving, its 3 30 am, and ive done nowt except pace from room to room, staring through every window but theres nowt there, I had lots to say to you all, but its all gone out my head, but thanks once again to you all for listening to me, ive been a member of this forum for years, and theres folk replying to my topic, I never expected in a million years, ive done all my whinging now cheers lads, you've all been a great source of comfort to me, thank you My thanks to you Keith as i'm sure replying to a forum ain't an easy thing to do when your heads all over the place, a sign of a true gentleman and bless you for it mate. Words are failing me this morning but never think you have been whinging and i for one have ment every word i have written to you and if you need a break,some company at home or what ever please please please let me know what i can do to help and it'll be done... 10 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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