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Never really had thoughts of going elsewhere but starting having wee thoughts of moving to Oz. Better life style better money ect. Would hate to leave my family though

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Sometimes though Gnash striving for more you can lose sight of what you actually have , I know 1 bloke who could make the Times Rich list & he is so driven he in my eyes doesn't enjoy what he's actually got !!

Maybe being driven IS the enjoyment......its a different type of riches but truly enjoying making money can be more rewarding than the money itself.......dont you remember in Only Fools & Horses after Del had got his millions from that Sothebys auction the next day he was back on the phone to Monkey Harris or whoever it was doing a deal on some toasters :D ......i totally get that.

 

Anyway i was certainly living the dream last night beating them dirty Yids again :boogy:

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I was offered a new job not long after I found out my missus was pregnant. Around 6 grand a year more which sounds great when you've a kid on the way. It involved lots of travelling late nights and overtime would be there at weekends. But we make enough just now that we are more than comfortable and the one thing you can't buy back is lost time. As they say the best things in life are free.

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Haha, beat me to it Gnash.

I'm living the dream today, took my two kids teams away last night and they played their little socks off........got in about 10 to find we had beaten the yids and quiet possibly cost them the title !!.........it don't get better than that !

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I was offered a new job not long after I found out my missus was pregnant. Around 6 grand a year more which sounds great when you've a kid on the way. It involved lots of travelling late nights and overtime would be there at weekends. But we make enough just now that we are more than comfortable and the one thing you can't buy back is lost time. As they say the best things in life are free.

But what if it was 60 grand a year more instead of 6 ?.....f**k it lets say 600 grand....or lets go the whole hog and say 6 million ?......its a lovely romantic notion people have when they say " i wouldnt put money before family "......but in my experience every man has his price...... not pointing this at you by the way Rusty im just making the point in general.

 

If its a toss up between securing your wife and kids lives and futures,putting them in a position where they will never want for anything,setting them up in homes/business ( ex wife included ! ) making sure they never have to do the sort of shit you had to do...............but all at a cost of your personal relationships with them.....which would it be ? and are you being selfish whichever one you choose ?

 

Im not making a stand or an excuse for shit fathers or absent fathers i just think we can all have these big morals and principals when they are unlikely to ever be tested but what if it really was an option,what is the hard honest reality then ?

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I was offered a new job not long after I found out my missus was pregnant. Around 6 grand a year more which sounds great when you've a kid on the way. It involved lots of travelling late nights and overtime would be there at weekends. But we make enough just now that we are more than comfortable and the one thing you can't buy back is lost time. As they say the best things in life are free.

But what if it was 60 grand a year more instead of 6 ?.....f**k it lets say 600 grand....or lets go the whole hog and say 6 million ?......its a lovely romantic notion people have when they say " i wouldnt put money before family "......but in my experience every man has his price...... not pointing this at you by the way Rusty im just making the point in general.

 

If its a toss up between securing your wife and kids lives and futures,putting them in a position where they will never want for anything,setting them up in homes/business ( ex wife included ! ) making sure they never have to do the sort of shit you had to do...............but all at a cost of your personal relationships with them.....which would it be ? and are you being selfish whichever one you choose ?

 

Im not making a stand or an excuse for shit fathers or absent fathers i just think we can all have these big morals and principals when they are unlikely to ever be tested but what if it really was an option,what is the hard honest reality then ?

Honestly wouldnt do it mate. Would happily win 6 mill in the lotto but wouldn't throw the best years of my life away. That's me being honest. Right now I'm pretty well off if I'm honest but I'm no happier than I was when I didn't earn as much. If I was a single guy with no commitments bar my hobbies I would probably give a different answer.

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Honestly wouldnt do it mate. Would happily win 6 mill in the lotto but wouldn't throw the best years of my life away. That's me being honest. Right now I'm pretty well off if I'm honest but I'm no happier than I was when I didn't earn as much. If I was a single guy with no commitments bar my hobbies I would probably give a different answer.

 

That's fair enough and understandable......but just to put a slight spin on it......your kids get to working age and havent got a pot to piss in just like you when you left school.....your mrs has spent all those years struggling to raise them just getting by week to week.....................do you think theres a chance you would look back and think " shit i could of changed all that but for my own selfish need for relationships with them " ?......do you think theres a chance your kids would say " wanker you could of given us everything but you chose not to " ?

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Honestly wouldnt do it mate. Would happily win 6 mill in the lotto but wouldn't throw the best years of my life away. That's me being honest. Right now I'm pretty well off if I'm honest but I'm no happier than I was when I didn't earn as much. If I was a single guy with no commitments bar my hobbies I would probably give a different answer.

 

That's fair enough and understandable......but just to put a slight spin on it......your kids get to working age and havent got a pot to piss in just like you when you left school.....your mrs has spent all those years struggling to raise them just getting by week to week.....................do you think theres a chance you would look back and think " shit i could of changed all that but for my own selfish need for relationships with them " ?......do you think theres a chance your kids would say " wanker you could of given us everything but you chose not to " ?

 

 

thats some spin,,, :laugh: you could do well working in government..

 

to answer the question,,even though its not aimed at me,,,,no

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Honestly wouldnt do it mate. Would happily win 6 mill in the lotto but wouldn't throw the best years of my life away. That's me being honest. Right now I'm pretty well off if I'm honest but I'm no happier than I was when I didn't earn as much. If I was a single guy with no commitments bar my hobbies I would probably give a different answer.

 

That's fair enough and understandable......but just to put a slight spin on it......your kids get to working age and havent got a pot to piss in just like you when you left school.....your mrs has spent all those years struggling to raise them just getting by week to week.....................do you think theres a chance you would look back and think " shit i could of changed all that but for my own selfish need for relationships with them " ?......do you think theres a chance your kids would say " wanker you could of given us everything but you chose not to " ?

My old man has and has had nothing more than what he needs all his days. Never been able to say to me here I've got you a car here I've got you this deposit for a house. He has plenty money to waste on stuff he wants and do things he wants. I'm usually with him. Never felt like he owed me anything or wish he could have gave me anything. Now we've got our kid coming he's offered to do me a straight swap for our his to his big house. Didn't expect it and although it helps him out as he's on his own and really needs to down size I really appreciate it but in no way think I should be entitled to it.

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I was offered a new job not long after I found out my missus was pregnant. Around 6 grand a year more which sounds great when you've a kid on the way. It involved lots of travelling late nights and overtime would be there at weekends. But we make enough just now that we are more than comfortable and the one thing you can't buy back is lost time. As they say the best things in life are free.

 

But what if it was 60 grand a year more instead of 6 ?.....f**k it lets say 600 grand....or lets go the whole hog and say 6 million ?......its a lovely romantic notion people have when they say " i wouldnt put money before family "......but in my experience every man has his price...... not pointing this at you by the way Rusty im just making the point in general.

 

If its a toss up between securing your wife and kids lives and futures,putting them in a position where they will never want for anything,setting them up in homes/business ( ex wife included ! ) making sure they never have to do the sort of shit you had to do...............but all at a cost of your personal relationships with them.....which would it be ? and are you being selfish whichever one you choose ?

 

Im not making a stand or an excuse for shit fathers or absent fathers i just think we can all have these big morals and principals when they are unlikely to ever be tested but what if it really was an option,what is the hard honest reality then ?

I don't think it comes down to big morals or principals or looking down on anyone........it comes down to doing what sits right with you as a person and you can't change your character.......you are who you are.

You can adjust it, you can hone and polish it a bit but you will always be a product of your roots.

 

I can only speak from experience, it's no f***ing fun for a kid being in the old bill shop for 7 hours getting asked all sorts of snidey questions while they have you old man down stairs, or having 18 of the c**ts come through the door on a Saturday morning while you are watching Tiswas with 6 of them stood round your old man while he takes a tom tit !

You have to grow up before your time.

 

Train journeys with your mum to some god forsaken nick on visiting day........and your heart breaking when you have to leave.

I never blamed or held any resentment about it, it's just how it was.......it went with the job.

BUT.......I never wanted that for mine because personally all the money in world wouldn't have made it a damn bit more of a pleasure.

Them days are long gone anyway, you can earn a nice few quid straight now with pretty basic knowledge and a work ethic.......but you have to do what's right for you.

Someone else's way may not be your way, you can't judge them in that........it's called minding your own business.

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I just think its one of those things people say and get away with saying because its never going to happen...... too many folk have these throw away morals and big statements they stand behind it always reminds me of these blokes who see a beautiful model and say something like " i would smash her back doors in ".............yes you would if you could but you cant so you wont !

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Honestly wouldnt do it mate. Would happily win 6 mill in the lotto but wouldn't throw the best years of my life away. That's me being honest. Right now I'm pretty well off if I'm honest but I'm no happier than I was when I didn't earn as much. If I was a single guy with no commitments bar my hobbies I would probably give a different answer.

 

That's fair enough and understandable......but just to put a slight spin on it......your kids get to working age and havent got a pot to piss in just like you when you left school.....your mrs has spent all those years struggling to raise them just getting by week to week.....................do you think theres a chance you would look back and think " shit i could of changed all that but for my own selfish need for relationships with them " ?......do you think theres a chance your kids would say " wanker you could of given us everything but you chose not to " ?

 

 

Its not a selfish need, its a balance you are happy with, each man is different. Hopefully we all have different answers to what is the balance.

What kid would turn around and say wanker? unless the parent was an arsehole I cant see see that happening, voice of experience here on that one.

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Made the break 16 years ago, land, lakes, animals etc. Open my door and I can see nothing but valleys, trees and sky. Although there is a pillion in the distance, keep meaning to drop it with the chop saw! :laugh: .

Any ways, my back is busted, my shoulders give me gip, I get knee problems from time to time. People are often trying to chore stuff, every thing I do, build or buy are in denominations of £500. I have most things, I want for not a lot, but always seem to be skint.

When you've got animals/dogs etc it's 7 days week, 52 weeks a year kinda ting.

I long for holidays, fishing trips and not waking up at dawns crack.

I came from the smoke and I missed the hustle and bustle of city life. Slowly I've got used to the slowly slowly country business and I am now part of the scenery.

"Living the Dream" you say, I bet a lot on here couldn't hack it. I've learnt a lot here over the years and a lot I didn't need to know, but hey that's part of life and I like learning stuff that I can bore people at parties with :D.

 

My dreams now are to go fishing lots, hunting a little less :blink: , using my bike instead of big diesel engines, waking up when I please and worrying about nothing but what to eat. Forgot about having an extended vegetable patch, from this my food trading would start.

Oh and I wouldn't mind a good party from time to time :boogy: .

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I just think its one of those things people say and get away with saying because its never going to happen...... too many folk have these throw away morals and big statements they stand behind it always reminds me of these blokes who see a beautiful model and say something like " i would smash her back doors in ".............yes you would if you could but you cant so you wont !

Like so many men I have known mate, everyone makes choices based on their circumstances at the time.....your area and your upbringing will also have an impact on those choices.........and it will all end up where it ends up.

Different strokes for different folks............let he who is without sin cast the first stone and all that ;)

 

What's not for one bloke may be the only option another bloke sees.......I was talking about something similar with my wife last night and said to her "every c**ts a genious after the event"

 

I was lucky enough (I suppose !!) to see some things from a different perspective and so that shaped my choices but also stood me in good stead.......would I change it?......well one thing maybe but other than that not at all...........a life less ordinary and happy to have seen it ;)

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my back is busted, my shoulders give me gip, I get knee problems from time to time.

How old are you Mr Green? :blink:

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