byron 1,093 Posted March 28, 2014 Report Share Posted March 28, 2014 they,ll go deep haymin...and rightly so.... best of luck..... 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Keeps 403 Posted March 28, 2014 Report Share Posted March 28, 2014 (edited) . Edited June 19, 2014 by Keeps 5 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
baw 4,360 Posted March 28, 2014 Report Share Posted March 28, 2014 Thanks for all your replys busy finishing a job so can't reply all the time should have waited so I can have more of an input( sake) , we've had the 3 day introduction and two other classes the paper work is unreal you have to fill in ie prom when you where born up to now it's a bit worriei g for me as my past takin drugs/criminal record ect but that will all have to come out and let them decide on the person I am now and what iv / we have got to offer as a family to childrrn that needs guidance and support ? Good luck to you, the paperwork is a nightmare, but its well worth it in the end. If you're up front about your past, they will take a better view than if you try to hide anything. I foster a little boy permanently, best thing I ever did What's the difference between permanent fostering and adoption or are they the same thing? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Tiercel 6,986 Posted March 28, 2014 Report Share Posted March 28, 2014 Been writing a thing on fostering. . . . it's great when you get good folk doing it. But unfortunately you get some who just do it for the cash, and the poor kids are treated like crap. know a few like that, they treat the kids differently to their own family. One Fosterer makes the kids only use 3 sheets of toilet paper when they go to the toilet. With another couple they are not allowed to have their food with the family an have a separate living room to the rest of the family. As you said it's all about the money with some, but thankfully not all. We have done respite for an autistic boy, just to see him get to trust you is a pleasure on it's own. TC 5 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
socks 32,253 Posted March 28, 2014 Report Share Posted March 28, 2014 Me and the missus have been talking seriously about this and once the youngest has gone to uni in about 18 months time we will be looking more deeply into it ... My missus prefers to adopt 3 to 10 year olds as she is a qualified nursery teacher with qualifications in special needs and troubled kids ........... 7 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Keeps 403 Posted March 28, 2014 Report Share Posted March 28, 2014 What's the difference between permanent fostering and adoption or are they the same thing? Not quite the same thing although both offer permanent stability to a child. Some children still have very strong links to their family, still see their parents on a regular basis and their legal status means that adoption is not an option, or in the best interests for them, but these children still need a permanent stable home until they reach adulthood, when they are unable to live with their parents, for whatever reason. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
haymin 2,465 Posted March 28, 2014 Author Report Share Posted March 28, 2014 Thanks for all your replys busy finishing a job so can't reply all the time should have waited so I can have more of an input( sake) , we've had the 3 day introduction and two other classes the paper work is unreal you have to fill in ie prom when you where born up to now it's a bit worriei g for me as my past takin drugs/criminal record ect but that will all have to come out and let them decide on the person I am now and what iv / we have got to offer as a family to childrrn that needs guidance and support ? Good luck to you, the paperwork is a nightmare, but its well worth it in the end. If you're up front about your past, they will take a better view than if you try to hide anything. I foster a little boy permanently, best thing I ever did What's the difference between permanent fostering and adoption or are they the same thing? I'm sure the perminant fostering the kid is still in the social work programme but in the latter there not I think keeps will no better ?? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
haymin 2,465 Posted March 28, 2014 Author Report Share Posted March 28, 2014 Thanks for that keeps its all very interesting , and rely opens your eyes to the kind of people that are out there very sad atvb what your doing . 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
paulus 26 Posted March 28, 2014 Report Share Posted March 28, 2014 Me and the missus have been talking seriously about this and once the youngest has gone to uni in about 18 months time we will be looking more deeply into it ... My missus prefers to adopt 3 to 10 year olds as she is a qualified nursery teacher with qualifications in special needs and troubled kids ........... we had a brother and a sister aged 7 and 8, came from a very bad background, everything from prostitution to drug dealing is all they had known there entire lives, culminating in them witnessing their mother being stabbed and left for dead. we tried for 4 months or so but we were just not able to give them the specialist help that they obviously needed and more so with there being 2 of them, we asked if they could be split but was told no. in the end we had to make a very hard choice as it was effecting all the family. ideation. the crises in adult social care is an absolute disgrace with vulnerable adults being used as nothing more than cash cows for the private sector, social services are aware but as i have already said there are no alternatives unless a family member will commit to caring full time, Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Keeps 403 Posted March 28, 2014 Report Share Posted March 28, 2014 I'm sure the perminant fostering the kid is still in the social work programme but in the latter there not I think keeps will no better Yes permanently fostered children still remain under the care of the local authority who are their "corporate parents" (through a care order), where adopted children's legal status changes. Adoption legally removes and rights of the child’s birth parents, and transfers them to the adoptive parents. This also means that the child or children involved lose any legal right to inheritance from their birth family. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
haymin 2,465 Posted March 28, 2014 Author Report Share Posted March 28, 2014 I'm sure the perminant fostering the kid is still in the social work programme but in the latter there not I think keeps will no better Yes permanently fostered children still remain under the care of the local authority who are their "corporate parents" (through a care order), where adopted children's legal status changes. Adoption legally removes and rights of the childs birth parents, and transfers them to the adoptive parents. This also means that the child or children involved lose any legal right to inheritance from their birth family. that's it ? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
sandymere 8,260 Posted March 28, 2014 Report Share Posted March 28, 2014 (edited) My other half has some experience working in adoption and has been saying we should foster, I believe it can be hard work but has its good side, one doing even a little good is better than none plus the extra income would be a bonus. It’s seen as a job, much like paying people who work in care homes etc which sounds a little mercenary but at the end of the day its about the individual. The hope is to start to attract people to a career much as you would a nurse or social worker who do things properly rather than some that have fostered in the past. For those who want to be stay at home mums/dads to raise their own children its a good way to get an income to do so whilst giving somewhere for other children who are less lucky. Every ones a winner. edit to add right children to the right home, ie paulus case, need the social workers to place correctly if it's to work. Edited March 28, 2014 by sandymere Quote Link to post Share on other sites
haymin 2,465 Posted March 28, 2014 Author Report Share Posted March 28, 2014 Me and the missus have been talking seriously about this and once the youngest has gone to uni in about 18 months time we will be looking more deeply into it ... My missus prefers to adopt 3 to 10 year olds as she is a qualified nursery teacher with qualifications in special needs and troubled kids ........... that's much the same as Anne's back ground socks , we are filling in the first forms now , ill photo copy the first section (12 pages )to you ,give you an insiite of the questions you have to fill in about your self ?think iv still got an address for postage ? Cheers Jim Quote Link to post Share on other sites
walshie 2,804 Posted March 28, 2014 Report Share Posted March 28, 2014 Fair play to you Jim. Kids couldn't ask for a better home IMO. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
socks 32,253 Posted March 28, 2014 Report Share Posted March 28, 2014 Me and the missus have been talking seriously about this and once the youngest has gone to uni in about 18 months time we will be looking more deeply into it ... My missus prefers to adopt 3 to 10 year olds as she is a qualified nursery teacher with qualifications in special needs and troubled kids ........... that's much the same as Anne's back ground socks , we are filling in the first forms now , ill photo copy the first section (12 pages )to you ,give you an insiite of the questions you have to fill in about your self think iv still got an address for postage ? Cheers Jim Cheers mate much appreciated .......... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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